Why does everyone seem to know what's best for you/me?
Why does everyone try to pressure you/me to go to school or change jobs or feel in order or the only way to be happy in life is to have a job that pays you a millions dollars a years is the right job?
Why does everyone feel what makes them happy will make you/me happy?
Why don't people just be happy with who we are and not what we can change about them?
2007-05-21 06:04:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
They just can't see to imagine that anyone could possibly think different from the way that they do.
love and blessings Don
2007-05-21 06:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general (and it sounds like you are speaking in general) people want to be accepted and know that what they feel/think/do is acceptable and "normal". When you come along and don't agree with the choices they have made with their life, they feel insecure that the choices they have made are the "right" choices.
They feel if they can get you to agree that, yes, their ideals and goals in life are what you want to emulate, then you are validating them and the choices they have made.
Again, this is just a generalization. Humans (like most species) are made up more of followers than of leaders and followers need constant reassurance that they are doing the right thing. When they find someone who doesn't agree with them, they start to doubt their choices. It's a lot more comfortable to get you to say you are wrong then for them to admit they are wrong (not that either one of you are wrong, but they are craving that validation of right and wrong).
It's annoying but it's also human nature. Take pride in the fact that you are an independant thinker and you aren't being sucked into the capitalistic ideal that the media feeds us that to be happy you have to be rich and have lots and lots of things.
2007-05-21 13:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to learn about these questions is to ask
the people who interact in these ways. Offer them your
opinion on why you believe that it is in mutual best interest
for interaction to follow an agreed on protocol. The
worst that can happen is that your answers will be
answered with irrational reasoning, but at least then
you will know it isn't your fault. In my opinion, it is better
to have a thorn in the side than a monster in the closet.
2007-05-21 13:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by active open programming 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flattered. Somebody apparantly cares about you. Caring people only want the best for those they care about and they give them the benifit of their experience, sometimes without thinking that you may not want it. They just don't want you to make what they precieve as the same mistakes they did. Take it in spirit in which it is given and then do your own thing.
2007-05-21 13:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who care about you just don't want you to make the same mistakes that they did, so that's probably why they try to tell you what to do. But you don't have to listen to them all the time. Just do what you are good at, and what makes you feel happy. Follow your heart (and instincts) to freedom...
2007-05-21 13:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People mean well but I find this to in my own life....I feel that these people that constantly want to fix other people's lives is because they are trapped in their own lives and so unhappy and they do not know what to do but preach to you...which is so wrong because we need to find the answers on our own.
I so agree when another person values you...they should value you on who you are and not what they see you should be or how you should live your life. If they are a true friend they should just listen to us instead of judge us or make comments on how to fix out lives :))) Compassion and empathy that is what we need because ultimately we will make the decision no one else because it is our life to live :)))
2007-05-21 13:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by Rita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conditioning
2007-05-21 13:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by wraith227 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might not be the most popular answer, but I have to say that it is important to realize at some point that other people might know something that you don't, and in most cases probably more than you.
It's important to realize that you can be wrong about things.
2007-05-21 13:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by !@#%&! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, we get that you're kinda angry at people giving you unwanted advice. 'Everyone' doesn't do this, however. Just the people who you're dealing with at this moment. Maybe you need to stop having these conversations with them.
2007-05-21 13:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is usually a false argument.
People who will "should" you are generally doing it for their own interest. After all, if you should do it, shouldn't they as well. Or, if you think it is good for me, wouldn't it be good for you as well.
2007-05-21 13:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋