whinning? I had a bad experience at a graduation party on several levels, I did share some negative things that happened to me but my husband said I was whinning. I did not use a whinning tone, just needed to vent and talk about it. Ive got no other person to share this with and I thought that was what he is suppose to be there for. I've listened to him plenty and sided with him too. But when the situation is turned around he calls it whinning. Im ticked right now!
2007-05-21 06:02:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah that happens some and yes if you have that friendship set into the relationship he is but if it is not set in place he is just selfish and you allowed it to happen .....but no your not whinning by any means and your not about this either he sounds like he doesnt care about your feelings at all....
but if you want to vent vent with us thats what we are here for might make you feel a little better
2007-05-21 09:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person and every man and every relationship is different. Some men don't like hearing those kinds of things, or can't. But you should tell him how it made you feel when he said that, and what you wish he had done. Maybe he didn't realize it was upsetting you.
If he's not willing to be a shoulder for you to cry on or a person for you to vent to, thenyou should explore other places to get your frustration out. That is the relationship I have with my husband, though he constantly wants to fix my problems rather than just listening.
But not everybody is that way. I married a listener because it was important to me and that's one of the things that made me love him. Everybody is different.
2007-05-21 06:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Meiran C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always ticked at my husband for this kinda insensitivity too. There are some guys who just want to FIX all problems, so when they CANT FIX IT, they dont want to hear it. These men come off as insensitive or uncaring at times. They dont want to hear venting or anything that is negative that they cant fix.
When I vent, he changes the subject quickly or says "HOW CAN I MAKE THIS BETTER FOR YOU". whadda dummy! I need a shoulder, not a repairman!
2007-05-21 06:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called emotional support and frankly your husband sounds lilke he's not giving it to you. Inform him that you do not appreciate him calling you whinning when you are just venting and let him know that if he can't listen to you vent then you don't want to hear his **** anymore
2007-05-21 06:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would think that would be the case, but nowadays no one wants to hear that unless it is them doing the talking. Maybe he had a bad day and didn't realize how much you needed him at that time to listen. Try not to think negative about this and maybe he will say he is sorry later after giving it some thought.
2007-05-21 06:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are whining. Do you complain to him a lot, or is this an isolated incident? If you are always complaining about something or another, then I would say that you are whining. Start being a more positive person and maybe when you have a real reason to vent- he won't think you are whining.
2007-05-21 06:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thought that's what husbands were for but mine does similar things to me. If I complain then he will find some way for it to be my fault. Start doing the same thing to him. When he vents tell him he is whining.
2007-05-21 06:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Inneedofpeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 00:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your girlfriends or go to an online venting site.
2007-05-21 06:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men just can not sit and listen. They want to give you feed back. Perhaps he is that type of guy.
2007-05-21 06:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋