"Best" Friend?

Question

One of my 'best' friends is also one of my two moh's in my wedding. Well anyway, she moved 7 hours away about two months ago and has since done a complete 180 in the friendship department. We went from being inseperable friends to speaking maybe once a week and I haven't heard from her in almost three weeks now.

I sent her an email expressing my concerns about her being my moh and not having heard from her and I still haven't heard a response from her. I'm really pissed off and need advice, I don't want to drop her from the wedding because I care about her but something's got to change.....My wedding is in 74 days and I can't be stressing about not hearing from my bridesmaids.

Answer 1

Well it could just be that she is busy with her life in her new home. Especially in the first couple of months. Unpacking alone can take up a lot of your time. Then there is meeting new people and getting to know the area you have moved to. Time can fly when you are busy setting up in a new location. I know that from experience. It probably isn't anything more than that. Maybe it just is too much responsibility for her to be maid of honor when she is also so busy in her own life. Perhaps it would be best for both of you if you gave her reduced duties, you said you had two maid of honors so make her a bridesmaid and let your other maid of honor take the position solely.

If you can't reach her on the phone just leave a message telling her of your decision and politely explain why you think it is best for both of you. You don't need the added stress right now either with all of your plans.

Congrats and best wishes to you and your future hubby.

Answer 2

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt at this point and assume she's totally immersed with her new home, new job, new everething...... does she have family? Is she getting kids set up in school? Sure, your wedding is important, but it's not quite here yet, and she's trying to live her life- and possibly a very busy one, in a new enviornment. My first inclination is to tell you to take a deep breath, and chill out, and call her (not email) to get a better sense of what's going on.