If you think that you are in a happy marriage, are you absolutely sure that your spouse is also happily married? If you are the unhappy spouse in a marriage, have you told your spouse that you're unhappy? Or do you just pretend to be happy to keep the peace and avoid the verbal abuse, like me?
2007-05-21 05:29:23 · 16 answers · asked by Angel L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm very sure that my husband tells people that we have a very happy marriage. I try never to talk back to him or disagree with him. I try to let him have his way in everything. If I don't abide by these rules, he gets angry.
2007-05-21 05:34:20 · update #1
I really do not think so, I am speaking from my own experience. My marriage is like a rollarcoaster....At times i am happy then times I am not. This is not healthy but somehow I managed to stay. I know a marriage will not be perfect but I at least think you should always be happy. I have told my spouse but he really has not made a difference. In your case, you need to let him know how you feel and if that means verbal abuse then take it, at least you will get your point across. If nothing gets resolved and you are still unhappy, then leave. Good luck!!
2007-05-21 05:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sundae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is such thing as a happy marriage. My marriage is proof of that. I mean yes, it is not perfect but no marriages are. But my hubby and I have a very happy marriage and we love being married to eachother.
2016-03-19 09:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of people who are happily married. Happiness is a choice. The people I know who have happy marriages, have decided to be happy.
If you want to have a happy marriage, then decide to be happy and do what it takes to get that. Then do what you can to make your spouse happy. You can both be happy but it is a choice. Not being happy in marriage is a stupid reason to get divorced, because it can be fixed.
However, if he is being abusive, truly being abusive, verbally or physically, then you do need to stand up for yourself and leave the marriage. Nobody should put up with abuse EVER. You still have the choice to be happy- when you leave an abusive relationship you chose to end the abuse and now you can choose to be happy. Life is not about luck- it is all about choices.
2007-05-21 05:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there such a thing as a happy marriage? Not in my life!
2007-05-21 05:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not now nor have I ever been married but I just had to say something to you if you pretend to be happy to keep the verbal abuse from happening then you need to get out you will only end up resenting him if you don't already for all the years you've wasted hoping things will change and they never will see I never had the paper or the ring but I was in a relationship very similar and I ended it last year and it's amazing to me now how much of myself I really lost holding on to something that wasn't meant to be for so long and the feeling I now have for friends and family that I let go years ago now they are all here for me and I am so gratful for the chance to once again be the person I so long needed to be again and yes kids were involved now he and I are pretty good friends and find that this situaltion now is much better than what we had for the 131/2yrs. of being together it's never worth it just to keep the peace I was called so many things for so long he don't do that now I think he may even respect me a bit more cause now he knows, and has told me, what he lost for being that way see he knows how to control you to keep it from happening you need to take control of you life back good luck for you and god bless
2007-05-21 05:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I are happy. I can't think of a moment during the past 9 years of our marriage where I wished that I wasn't married.
You've got to respect him -and- feel that he respects you. That's the real foundation for happiness in any relationship.
If you don't have that (and don't think you can achieve that through communication or counseling), you should free each other up to find that relationship in your lives. Life is too short to compromise your happiness.
2007-05-21 05:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can be happy in a marriage in which there is abuse. Your marriage is not happy, and that's the only marriage that matters in your life. Marriage counseling is absolutely needed for you and your husband, and divorce if things don't change.
2007-05-21 05:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person who gets married with the expectation of the marriage making them happy, is destined to be unhappily married (I don't know you, but I'm speaking from my own experience and experience of others I know). Two people who are already happy can have a happy marriage.
2007-05-21 06:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Conqi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I htink there is no such thing is a marriage being happily. when your married there is always going to be problems, no matter what; but like there will be problems there will also be wonderful times, i guess that's just the way of life
2007-05-21 05:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by cindy 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am in a happy marriage and I am sure that my husband is too. He tells me every day. We make sure that we tell eachother if something is wrong or bothersome and try to keep the lines of communication WIDE open. We have been married over 4 years.
2007-05-21 05:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋