me and him have been together for 3 years and he keeps telling me that me and him will be together. i am so in love with him but he is in a situation that he cannot get out of.
2007-05-21 05:15:56 · 13 answers · asked by HEARTBOUND♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in other words he claims that he is unhappily married and that his wife doesnt give him enough sex and so he comes to you for free sex and he cannot get a divorce because of the kids ?
2007-05-21 05:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, in reality no one is in a situation they can't get out of. If he knows he can keep you with telling you this, than this will be the way it will be. Now, until you get tired of being second best with him, then he might just be able to get out of it or either tell you the truth about his feelings. If in the 3 years you have been together and he hasn't worked out what it is in his life, he never will as long as you hang on to something that is a shadow.
2007-05-21 12:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you got involved with a man in another relationship?
He can have his cake and eat it too? Why should he be with you, if he already is getting every thing he wants from you, and has the safety of another relationship to keep you at bay?
BELIEVE me! If he wanted to be with you, NOTHING short of prison would keep him away.
He can be with you if he wants to. He has no incentive.Don't buy it a minute longer.
I know you are in love, and you are desperately hanging on to the illusion that he loves you and CAN'T be free. It is baloney.
It is time for you to have a backbone, and some self-worth.
Tell him you love him, you want him to set an exact time that you will be "together" and then hold him to it. When he fools around and gives you some BS about his situation, tell him to beat it.
Stick to it.
If he wants you, and you put your foot down, he will get with you. QUICK! If he is using you, playing you, don't you want to know? That way, you can get on with your life, and find someone who is FREE to be with you.
If it is enough for you, for him to be sharing his time, effort with someone else, and you are devoted to him only--WHY is it ok?
You deserve crumbs? Why? You deserve to have someone love you, be with you only, and this is as close as you can get? Why? What is wrong with YOU that this is ok with you?
Answer these questions, and you will soon see that you have been made a fool of, and you will eventually get really PISSED!
Or you will know that you are less than others and don't deserve happiness, devotion, and respect.
You need to know these things today.
2007-05-21 12:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yea, HE is in a situation??? YOU are in a situation, babe...and you should never have put yourself there in the first place. This will never happen, you and I both know it. You are wasting precious years that will never come back. There will always be an excuse, if not from him, then certainly from you..for you are already making them. Cut and run now. Find someone who is free to date. This one ain't it.
2007-05-21 12:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well, if it's been this way for this long, I seriously doubt it's going to get any better, and yes, it's time for you to move on. This phrase rings true: "If a man wants to be with a woman, he will move mountains for her". This is true, regardless of the situation. I'm living it right now =)
2007-05-21 12:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - he's not made you the priority. For whatever he's involved in, he can't/doesn't seem to want to get out of it. If you don't want to wait around, then move on. I'd suggest now could be a good time to do it. Stay strong and get out there and pursue your own path.
2007-05-21 12:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A situation in which he's MARRIED???? Yes, he can get out of it, it just costs too much and basically he's saying you're not worth the time, money or trouble. The truth hurts!
2007-05-21 12:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Perplexed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, three years is long enough. Time to get on with your life. If he is in a situation and can't get out, then you should.
2007-05-21 12:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see - he cannot get out of the situation he is in and you are asking if you should wait for him? Wait for him to do what? According to you, he is stuck!
2007-05-21 12:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't end up like one of those women who let men lead them on and find themselves 45years old with no ring or children to show for the relationship
2007-05-21 12:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now while you still can. You've wasted enough time already.
Sure it will hurt. Sure it wll be "lonely" and you'll feel "needy" but get out now.
Be glad you aren't married to such a sleeze.
You deserve better.
2007-05-21 12:21:50 · answer #11 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋