He has five unruley kids and a 35y/o ignorant BM (To old to still be playing on people phones). Before we moved together, he never said nothing about his kids living with us, then here they (all)come without warning. I was never notified of this living situation, and besides I grew up in a house of little. (Meaning no one had over 3 kids, I am not use to alot of people in one place).The bad part is, is that we live in a 2 bd. 1ba apartment with 6kids and 2 adults. They had there own room and bed before they moved with us , now its a messy one room with air mattress. (Pathetic) I feel that he should not take them out of a stable environment until he is more prepared for them. (bigger house possibly) All I know is that he gets mad everytime I bring it up and tells me to forget about everything. I am just trying to live comfortably, not stuffy. Strangely enough I believe that he wants me to be some nanny, them are not my kids, and I don't have the patience.
2007-05-21 05:13:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you are with someone who has kids from a previous relationship, you have to take the whole package. If you two lived together and the kids did not live there, this should have been discussed prior to him moving them in. At which point you could have decided if that was your thing.
I am not crazy about how he expects you to take care of them but shuts down when you try to talk to him. And that is way too many people to live in a 2/1 apt. I realize that not everycan can afford a house but wow, that's alot of people. If you are feeling as if you are the unsalaried live-in nanny who has no say, I would pack my bags and move on.
Again, his kids come first and that is the way it should be but if you are expected to take care of them, your say matters!
2007-05-21 05:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move out and move on. He is the father of 5 kids and that should be his first priority. He obviously took them out of the bigger home because he felt they'd be better off with him. You aren't prepared and don't want to be an instant mother or nanny so let him go. He will always have the kids and they will always come first. Better to find a man with no kids so you can have the kind of relationship you want.Let him do what he feels is best for his children.
2007-05-21 05:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys really need to talk this out. You have to ask yourself why is he moving 5 kids out of a stable environment to move to a 2bd.1ba apt. and also if he expects you to live in an unstable environment, he could atleast discuss it with you first before making a decision for you.
2007-05-21 05:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE.... its the best way to go. Not only that they aren't your kids and you shouldn't be taking care of them you paying half the rent and hes paying the other half but what you need to be paying is 25% of the rent cause he has the package not you. The money that you are paying there you use it to pay your own rent in your own kid stress free apartment and if you cant pay it full by yourself then there should be descent people that are looking for people to have as roommates....
2007-05-21 05:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Yassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've answered your own question. RUN don't walk away, if you don't want to raise someone else's kids. It looks like that's what he wants from a relationship. And you're a bright girl to know that its not what you want. I'm sure there are women out there that would not mind being in your situation but you need to trust your own instincts and feelings. Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-21 05:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by vanessamaypan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a customer of their living house, you're guaranteed to the regulations of the living house. in case you do no longer like it, flow out and make up your person nonsense. If do no longer prefer to be dealt with like a baby, do no longer act like one.
2016-11-25 21:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't fault you, but if you weren't comfortable with the situation it should have been addressed in the beginning when they all first came to live with you. Yes, that is not what you signed up for and you don't have to accept it. Do you have any children of your own? If you don't then let him know that you can't handle it and get your own apartment.
2007-05-21 05:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by jozy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is saying to quit complaining about it because he is not able to change the situation right now and he is doing the best he can with his kids.
You, however, are perfectly capable of moving out and living alone.
2007-05-21 05:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was very unfair for him to spring his kids on you without asking! Tell him you'll have to leave until he can at least get a bigger house for all of you.
2007-05-21 05:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to ask someone permission to change. you need to change your own and also you cannot ask this person to get rid of his children. you can divorce a partner not one's children. Move out.
2007-05-21 05:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cavaillon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋