I have noticed A LOT (almost everyone) suggests getting a divorce at the drop of a hat. Why is that? Does anyone believe in making it work anymore? Don't people believe in the vows they took? Please tell me your view on this!!
2007-05-21 05:05:13 · 10 answers · asked by Rhiannon C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally don't think it's because people get married too fast or too young. I married at 18 after a year and a half of dating. We are still together and going stong. We have been through hell and back but we are still together and happier now than ever before. Why aren't their more people that feel the same way I do? I think the "married too young" answer is a cop out.
2007-05-21 05:17:27 · update #1
I'm not talking about people that are abused!!!! I'm talking about the "I'm not sure I love him anymore" and the "there's a guy that's interested in me should I leave my husband" type of things.........
2007-05-21 05:23:22 · update #2
Because society has told people that life is all about them and if they don't get what they want then they should just keep looking until they find it. What they don't tell them is happiness is not out there in the world, or through another person, it comes from within.
People are selfish today and selfishness is promoted. It's all about ME. No one wants to have morals - that would be Un-American, and, gasp, Christian like!!! And that's a bad word in this country today. Doesn't matter that God's way of doing things ALWAYS WORKS and has never been proven otherwise.
2007-05-21 05:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Our society has become a "ME, ME, ME" environment. Respect is becoming an obsolete word in the lanquage. Not just respecting others, but respecting yourself. So when some is unhappy, hurt or just having alittle "itch", the answer is to move on and only think of yourself!
Values have changed. or maybe should I say "lowered". A marriage or lasting relationship is not a major priority. Too many choices and too much availability. Not only do you want your spouse but 75% of the population does too, or think they do. And somehow that has become OK, to seek out married people. Why people get married that know they are still going to "shop" is beyond me!
Marriage is not the "institution", as they called it, as was the past. It's what most say "just a piece of paper". And we all know how easy it is to throw a piece of paper away.
So, we throw away people as quickly . . .
2007-05-21 12:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes when i took my wedding vows i was seriouse but ive been seperated from my husband for 2 months now he had a a huge temper and there where alot of issues he was lazy didnt do anything for me and im even older then him no communication and no attention so i gave it my best shot life is too short to be miserible like i was i can finally breathe now but i do not believe in divorce i guess i just made a mistake and i havent been with anyone since my husband its gonna take me a long time im just getting to know me
2007-05-21 12:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a battered wife for seventeen years.
If that isn't "staying for the children" or "trying to work things out" then I don't know what is.
If you can take being called a F*****G Moron for 17 years - then bully for you. Otherwise, I suggest you quit judging people.
What kind of ogre are you?
2007-05-21 12:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions.. I cant tell you why people get devorced at the drop of a hat... yes, I believe in making my marriage work... and yes, I believe in the vows we took! lol... It would take ALOT for me to get a devorce! I love my husband with all of mt heart and when we read our vows I ment every word I said! I believe he is the only one for me and I would do anything to be with him forever! : )
Stefka.. I just read your answer and I agree 100%! Great answer! : )
2007-05-21 12:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Love-A-Bull 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well tell me...if you didn't feel the spark anymore...and ask yourself...what am i doing with this person??? well it's a bit normal...but on the other hand people in a way "illude" themselves that they want to spend the rest of their lives with some one they are convinced they love with all their hearts(it might be true..and it might not) so i dunno..i'm just a normal person telling you my point of view.
2007-05-21 12:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by srnkt_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason are so quick to get married. It's easier than ever to get out.
2007-05-21 12:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when you love someone you give them your world but once the love starts to go, people don't fight to get it back so the next resort is to get a divorce. to stop the fighting and yelling sometimes it is better to just get the divorce.
2007-05-21 12:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by HEARTBOUND♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a direct result of people quick to marry !!!!!!!!!! That's the problem.....
2007-05-21 12:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
whatever
2007-05-21 12:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋