Is there anyone on this planet who actually believes that their partner's ex is anything other than mad/insane/drunk/child abuser? It just stuns me how many people complain about their partner's ex - especially if there is child support to be paid.
2007-05-21 03:37:31 · 11 answers · asked by True Blue Brit 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've misunderstood me. My point is - who is telling the truth?
2007-05-21 03:43:27 · update #1
When you care about someone its easy to take their side. But the new partner cannot really tell what it was like since they were different people then, a different couple, with different dynamics. Unfortunately many people give themselves a bad name by not paying child support and that kind of thing just sours any good memories.
When there are children involved, best to zip it about the other party. The truth will surface in its own time...
2007-05-21 04:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only ones that know the truth are the ones that were together before becoming Ex's. I married a man with an ex and children and I have no problems with her being his ex. I have never complained about my husband paying child support. They are his children and his resposibility to support. I think a lot of the problems with Ex's come in depending on the circumstances of becoming Ex's. Another big factor is that women generally get custody of the children and if there is a lot of anger and hurt there, the children are the best weapon's to hurt the father. That is our situation. I have no problems with his ex as a person, I do however have a problem with her badmouthing him and I to the children, not letting them come see their father and doing and allowing some of the things that have gone on and are going on. It is about the children and people seem to forget that they divorced each other not the children.
2007-05-21 03:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by livin'life 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very easy to get caught up in an ex-partners scenario when you feel that you should be supporting your current partner 100%. As always, there are 10 sides to every story and in the case of child support - it is the innocent children who suffer the most.
2007-05-21 03:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by square_dotzz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hehe I do.
My husband was very honest about the fact that he got divorced from his ex cause she was cheating, but besides that he doesn't have a negative thing in the world to say about her or the way she treats her children.
The same with other exes (Just girlfriends, not ex-wives), not said a bad thing about them at all.
So I guess if we divorce I know I won't be called the evil psycho from hell :p
2007-05-21 04:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. just because you separated/divorced/parted ways, doesn't mean that the other person was a bad person. sometimes you can still love him/her but you couldn't overcome your differences. think about it, you fell in love w/ that person for a reason. sometimes people do change for the worse, but that doesn't happen all of the time. no one's perfect even me. so yeah, i don't think my ex is crazy/drunk/child abuser. he's actually a normal guy. we just couldn't overcome our differences. he's an outdoors person and i'm an indoors person. he's a people person, i'm more of have a couple of close friends and don't like to go out and party type.
2007-05-21 04:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by MISSYT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner didn't have anything really bad to say about his ex, she was a great mother, the kids also had what they needed, she attending everything, took trips with the kids, he paid child support and bought everything extra that the kids needed. (she was remarried, she has since cheated on husband #2, and is now divorced and living with current boyfriend) since him she has stopped being involved with the kids, my boyfriend now has custody of them (12 & 17) definently not easy for me. but now i can't stand his ex, you never put your partner before your kids.
2007-05-21 04:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get caught up in this. As I am no longer married to my ex, I don't have a physical attraction to her. But we have a son, so that connection will always be. I have to remember that she is God's child as I am, so I need to be considerate, in the very least. Knowing a child of God sheds a different light on things.
God loves her as much as He loves me.
2007-05-21 03:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm to young to be married but I can tell you that my father's wife (and my father) hate the fact that my mother (who I'm totally lucky to be living with) has been in a relation ship with a woman for the past 13 years. What they hate even more is that my mother married said woman 2 years ago, and because of that my father won't allow my half brother to come to my house!!! How sick is that?!?!?!
2007-05-21 03:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So much for the -- "it just didn't work out, so we got divorced" theory. There's always reasons why they're the "EX"!!
2007-05-21 03:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by phillipa_gordon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add skanky cheating ***** to the list and I am in!!
2007-05-21 03:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋