while we were seperated for 6 mths, in 2005 my hb had sex 3 times with this thing. She rang me 18 mths l8r to let me kno((so kind of it!). He said it was just revenge sex in the 1st 4 weeks of leaving as he was so hurt (i was a real *****, but no-one else involved). She however said it was a 4 yr loving affair. I kno she's lying as he did a lie detector test & passed. She keeps calling or texting me with more of her "revelations". Why on earth after 4 mths wld she keep calling me?
2007-05-21 03:36:38 · 32 answers · asked by gooneress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She feels rejected... There is no greater pain than a scorned woman... Get a restraining order against her... That's the easiest way to get rid of her... It's good that you forgave your husband, but he isn't blameless... Hope all goes well... Good Luck
2007-05-21 03:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by Oula 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that your husband was emotionally involved with her when the two of you were separated? Most of the times when men end up cheating, automatically emotion comes first because its a new woman not us wives. Men will say things but their action is different,so if your husband got involved with her and he told her something that he didn't mean,that woman will do her best to get what she thinhs is hers.
When I discovered my husband affair 5 months ago, I end it but one thing I didn't know was he was emotionally involved with this married woman. He learned to love her even if he only knew her for 2 months, to make things worst, just like you this woman keeps on calling me on my cell telling me all the details that they did together which I don't careless, I had to change my home number so she can't use it to call us. Because my husband told her that he loves her, she kept that and she thought it gives her the right to annoyed me. I told both of them that they can have each others, well my husband said no,which I don't care,but this bi**h still doing it. To make my story short, I faced the married woman and taught her a lesson, which after she heal herself,she started calling again. Look other woman are insecure that is why they become the other woman,so the next time that she calls or send you a text, tell her that you want to meet face to face so you can ask her to help you how to let your husband leave you. If you can do this and she meets you, that's when you can really tell her where to put it. Make sure that she will believe you when you talk to her, and knowing her she will take the bait.......good luck!
2007-05-21 05:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the "boil your bunny" syndrome. She hates that she's lost him, she had built a fantasy around their encounters and above all it peeves her that he's gone back to you.
Just don't take the calls, and delete the sms.. The truth may lie somewhere between the two stories and lie detector tests are not infallible but at the end of the day you've chosen to try again so who cares who says what about the past. If you want to move on - leave it there.
2007-05-21 04:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he did heart damage control on her and he just may be a perpetual lier that actually believes his lies. Lie detector machines aren't always correct sweetie. Hate to burst your bubble.Revenge sex??? He still enjoyed every minute of it especially if it was over 3 times? Bet it was more than that. Who knows he may still be doing it. Be safe especially about STDs. Also you said it was done out of revenge? Hmmm, you had an affair also???? Sounds like a three ring Circus to me. Hope it all work out and TRUST can be invited into ya'lls relationship again soon.
2007-05-21 03:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably having a hard time dealing with all of this just like you are. If your husband slept with her, she probably took it to be more than just a fling. She probably wants to actually be with him and she's doing what she can to make that happen. Any woman who gets involved with a man that's married has some issues, and she's showing that everytime she calls. Tell her that you could care less what she has to say or think about any of it and that you don't ever wish to talk to her again. Block her calls and don't answer the phone. If she continues to harass you, she what you can do about it through the court systems or police.
2007-05-21 03:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by STEVEN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes not the one who is not telling the truth. Lie detectors are not 100%. You can easily pass one if you know what your doing. Why don't you get both of them in the same room and confront both at one time. There is a reason she keeps calling. Don't paint her with the crazy brush just yet. Your man probably is stringing both of you along.
2007-05-21 03:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say that's it's probably because she was hoping she could have a serious, meaningful relationship with your husband and when he chose to work things out with you she became jealous. since it didn't work out for her she's going to try and make sure it doesn't work out with you and your husband. you obviously love your husband enough to trust him so don't let her come between you two because that is exactly what she wants in hopes that he'll come back to her. i think you should definitely do whatever you can to make sure she can't contact you like change your number and contacting the police for more advice on how to keep her from harassing you. good luck!
2007-05-21 03:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by wife_bop27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off... it's cause she's hurt... and she knows this can eat away at you.... have her number blocked... no reason to have this continue .. also call your phone company and report her.. she is harrassing you... call the police too...
but maybe an easier way would be to completely changing your number...
also you see a text or call is coming in to you... just reject the call...
as for your husband.. he needs to completely come clean, if this has truly stopped , he should stand up to her also NOT alone, he needs to go stand up to her with you and even a lawyer... she is stalking you and you can have a case against her..
Look into getting a restraining order
good luck... bren
2007-05-21 03:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. Change your phone number, and don't have anything to do with her. She's vindictive and cruel. I don't believe in "lie detector tests", so I'd also be watching my husband quite narrowly. She didn't just pop up after years to ruin your life randomly. She must have been keeping contact with him somehow, to know that he was back with you. There must be something that triggered her to start pestering you -- and you need to look to your husband to find out why that would be.
2007-05-21 03:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously nuts. Do not respond. Block her calls, emails, etc. If you trust hubby, then make sure you don't reward or encourage her behavior with any kind of response at all. She is trying to get his attention and wreck your marriage so he will go to her. Simple as that. Ignore her like she does not exist and go be happy.
2007-05-21 03:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋