what should someone do if his wife is completely disinterested in sex, what is the alternetive?

Answer 1

Well there is a need here for a lot more information before a really good answer can by made.
However, I would sit down with your wife and talk with her about it. It may be that sex has become uncomfortable for her or may even hurt. Or she may feel used and unappreciated. Or she could be going through "the change" -- menopause.
What ever the reason something has led up to it or has changed the way she feels about sex. You need to address that perception and or problem before you go any farther.
Drastic action such as divorce or getting a "side job" is not the best solution as they all have very heavy emotional and finiancial costs.
Try to work it out, see a doctor with her or counceling.
Best wishes.

Answer 2

You need to seek some help. Everyone should have some sort of sex drive. Your wife may have some major baggage that keeps her from having one. If it turns out that she is just completely and totally not interested in it and there are no reasons behind it, you will just have to see if you can live with it. I think there is probably something going on that you don't know about that counseling may be able to fix.

Answer 3

i would think some kind of intervention was in order, specifically, professional marital counseling. failing that, acceptance by you of the fact, or get a divorce and move past it. for all things there is a reason, the goal would be to try and find it.

Answer 4

Surprisingly enough, I thought about something like this. My girlfriend told me that sex hurts her, and I'm not all that fond of the idea of sex myself (A guy with no sex-drive? Oh noes!) and so, we remain faithful to eachother by our mutual agreement of not having it until she feels she's ready and I stop being a skiddish virgin. >.> Atleast I'll say it!

Answer 5

Divorce.

Counseling first maybe. There has to be a reason. Maybe she is getting it from someone else.

Answer 6

Divorce her. Or have an extramarital affair.