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...a teenage girl who is pregnant, or pushing a baby carriage?

2007-05-21 02:57:31 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

40 answers

oops.

Sorry if I offended anyone; but you did ask what my first thought is. I was just being honest.

2007-05-21 02:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by The PENsive Insomniac 5 · 1 3

When I see a pregnant teen I think how sad it is that she gave up her youth and fun years to be parenting instead. IF I see a teen girl pushing a baby carriage that could be either she is watching a younger sibling, someone else's baby or her own. IF she doesn't look like her body would when she gave birth (it instantly doesn't shrink back) then I would think how she must be in for a rude surprise to have to give up her youth for taking care of someone else that is in their's now. I know how demanding babies are in the care of them. I had my first child at 25. It wasn't easy then and would be even tougher for a teen I feel in what needs to be done and if the mother hasn't finished school yet either that adds to the ways she is dividing up her time. Often school graduation doesn't happen for them then. That is a sad way to limit one's self later on.

2007-05-21 03:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Since I have been there myself, I would smile to the girl & let her know that not everyone is going got jump on her & tell her how she wasted her life.
Believe me, every teenage girl who gets pregnant or has a baby gets sh-t from almost everyone. I think if the girl decides to have the baby & take care of it - kudos to her.
And to whoever said they would wonder where the father is - there are plenty of wonderful single mothers who do SO much more without the baby's father & I have been with my kids' dad since we were 15 & getting married next year. If you saw me out with my kids, I think it's funny that people would wonder where my parents' or kids' dad is.

2007-05-21 03:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by ohsnapbeth 3 · 0 0

i think people jump to conclusions.

its may be a sibling, niece, nephew, next door neighbour.

i am 23 - but look about 16 - i am 29 weeks pregnant. yesterday, i took my 1 year old niece out for the day and i got loads of dirty looks, people assume they know the situation and assume they have the right to judge me. i live with my partner, i am in college full time, my partner works no less than 60 hours a week and we recieve NO benefits, no income from the state.

just because a female is young doesnt mean they arent a good parent, it may be hard, but at least they are dealing with their actions as opposed to abortion or adoption.. and no one has the right to judge them.

2007-05-21 03:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Şơƥɦɨȩ'ȿ ♡Μυɱ˗Μυɱ♡ 5 · 2 0

I was a teen mother so I know that it takes a strong woman to give up her childhood to raise her child. I also think about how hard things will be for her. Especially when 80% of young fathers don't stick around to raise their children. I was 18 when I had my daughter and thank God my fiance' is a wonderful father. He is a great support. I just hope that these girls are as lucky. :) And secondly let me add that I graduated high school and am currently a sophmore in college with a 4.0 GPA. It's not impossible. I just refused to let my dreams die. BTW it was hard and still is but those who live in glass houses don't throw stones. Don't try to sweep someone else's porch until your own is clean. Don't be judgmental. Then not only is she a statistic but you have just mad yourself one.

2007-05-21 03:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by chuta_buta182004 1 · 6 0

When I was in my early 20's I used to be judgemental and wonder why some young kids make such rash decisions. Now that I am in my ealry 30's and a mother, I just think "God help her and the kid"

2007-05-21 03:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Pinewind3 2 · 0 0

I think more power to her for doing the right thing and not getting n abortion like soooo many people jump to do!

I had my son when I was a teenager and caught alot of crap and judgement from people. I got stares and comments and much UNWANTED parenting advice.

2007-05-21 03:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by jzgermany 4 · 1 1

My first thought is... awwwwwwwwwwwwww
Then I say OMG such a responsibility at such a young age.
Though my 18 year old daughter said many times that she will wait and doesn't want so much responsibility so young... she still got pregnant. I preached and preached beforehand but it didn't do any good.

2007-05-21 03:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 7 0

I feel sorry for her. It would be hard to be a young mom. Especially a young SINGLE mom. I see women MY age (29-30) who struggle with a baby AND a husband so I can't imagine what it's like for a teen.

But...you make your bed...you lay in it.

2007-05-21 03:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

It depends on how old she is. If she's like 13 or 14 I think she must have been raped... or if they are 15 or over I just think "Oh, another teenage mom." and then I usually think about how much prettier my daughter is. Haha!

2007-05-21 03:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

i think what a rough and lonely life she must have had. most girls start having sex at a young age because they are looking for love that they are not getting at home so they seek it elsewhere. alot of parents these days ignore their childrens emotional needs and only focus on the roof, food, clothes needs.

2007-05-21 03:06:05 · answer #11 · answered by tlindamt 1 · 2 0

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