2007-05-21 01:49:57 · 37 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I imagine he'll notice himself if he didn't already! If you can see it I bet he can!!
2007-05-21 01:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by bumpity-bump 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Who are you to say that the baby is not his? Unless the guy is completely clueless he probably knows and would not appreciate having it thrown in his face. Don't say anything unless he does.
Also, there is a chance that the baby is his. Genetics are a funny thing. I am as Caucasian as they come, I'm so white I glow. However less than 5 generations ago I have Negro in my bloodlines, along with Native American. There is a possibility that I could have a child with dark skin, or afro hair, or it may look Indian. My child may be born with red hair thanks to my Dad's side of the family. It may have any color eyes. Do any of these things mean the baby isn't my husbands? Not a freakin chance.
Nothing hurt my parents more than when they asked if my brother was adopted. We all had dark hair and his was snow white.
Also, if your friend has decided to be the dad, let him. Why ruin a good thing. It might take biology to be a father but it only takes love to be a dad.
2007-05-21 02:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by babybugs1980 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with another reply you have, love is blind.
in his eyes, the child is his, and he possible may know about it, i know you feel he should be told, but i think then it may cause so much tension and stress that the relationship he has with the baby will not last, and would you want to be a part of that??
if the baby is not his, and the mother of the child has not told him (if she is aware of this) then she will burn in sin for not telling him this, and also, guaranteed something will happen, then the truth will be told.
but really some babies dont look like either of the parents, but maybe a family member of the parents.
xx
2007-05-24 20:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by lovelifelivelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ur friend already knows this. r is he blind? he may have chosen to stay with his partner. maybe u would make it harder for him if u said anything as he may think no one else has noticed and would like to pass this child off as his. it could happen. As well sometimes things skip generations there have been bi racial kids born to two white parents because some were back along the line there may have been a great granddad or something from a different ethnic background. This has happened.
2007-05-21 01:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by RED (green's sister) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt say anything if I were in ur place..dont state the obvious because it will further embarass him if you do such. he has eyes and he can see and feel if the baby isnt his. Besides, what makes you sure that teh baby is not his? We have what we call recessive and dominant traits in biology. But if it really weren't his, just keep mum about it because more than anyone else, he would be able to feel if its his own flesh and blood.
2007-05-21 01:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you know your friends ethnic history? The baby could be a throwback.
My family waited for generations for a throwback from an African, several greats, grandfather and nothing. Then my cousin married a lovely black girl.....
2007-05-21 01:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by cananddo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should mind your own business. Unless the father is blind he'll be able to see his baby doesn't look like him. You'll end up ruining your friendship if you get in the middle. Besides there have been times when a white couple gives birth to a black baby.
2007-05-21 01:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by THEMURPHSTER 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am at a loss on this question. Are both parents of the same race? If it is a baby where more than one ethnticity is involved, it can happen that the child has more traits from one than the other. I have seen a family with both parents different races (black and white) where one child looked "black" and the other "white".
2007-05-21 01:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by chemrose 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be in his best interest to get a paternaty test...If not his child then he is not responsible to pay for child support should the relationship turn badly. I would state to this person the importance of knowing of the child parentage, because of medical problems from the true father. Some parents pasts medical links can be transfer to the child. It is best for the child in the long run to know who the true father is.
2007-05-21 02:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by bensgal4 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you've noticed then he's sure to have spotted it himself and is or isn't choosing to deal with the problem. Don't say anything it's not your business , it's likely a family member will say something and it's more their place to say something than yours. Maybe he knows and has chosen to accept this and make out the baby is his?
2007-05-21 01:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by valentine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't think you need to. My brother in law had the same thing happen to him and he just let it slide like it was nothing. He was so looking forward to having a kid that it didn't bother him in the end. He doesn't talk about it much, but hey, everyone is different right?
2007-05-21 01:58:38 · answer #11 · answered by Hans B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋