she is a nice person but is v. dependent on me, if i cant cometo a lecture she doesnt go either, she always wants me to drop her at her college after class, wants me to meet with her to study but really is so that she can talk about how horrible her life is, how she is so stressed ( we both do the same course, i work on top of that, she doesnt),and about a situation with some friend of hers that i dont even know, she wont actually disclose,the situation but complains about, so basically she doenst trust me enogh to tell me what it is but does use my time to complain aboit it, moreover, ironically she thinks i talk too much and that that is why we dont get much study done!!!!, the teachers dread her, always asks the same irrelevant questions..several times, Today, in class she asks if she can drink some of my water, i hand her my trusty water bottle and just as she was about to drink turns and says "oh wait but, its clean right?, do you think she is anoying?what should i do, tell her?
2007-05-21 01:34:35 · 5 answers · asked by saminita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Life is too short for a whiny, clingy friend. If she makes you that uncomfortable, you have long passed the time where this friendship added any value to your life. I would give this friendship a lot of distance. Make yourself unavailable to her by being busy, and maybe she'll take the clue. Otherwise, you may have to have a talk with her, saying something to the effect that you don't feel you two are on the same paths, and you think it's time to move on. Best of luck!
2007-05-21 01:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a friend. This is a vampire. She is sick and shouldn't be at UNI in the first place.
You'll have to find a way to say "no" and make it stick.
"No, it's not convenient for me to ferry you back and forth to school, study with you, sit next to you etc. etc."
Don't make a scene but be very firm about the fact that you are cutting ties with her and make it stick.
The making it stick part will be hard. She's slick, this one. She will cry, beg, threaten, etc. but that's to be expected. You've been her servant at her beck and call and now she has to find some other sucker to do her bidding.
If she threatens to do something foolish - like harming herself - as she might do - just to "guilt" you into being her friend, report it to the campus police - and student services. After the Virginia Tech Massacre, threats to self and others are not to be taken lightly.
2007-05-21 09:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not be drinking from the water botttle in the first place as you mightt give her germs.Maybe you will need to be firm with her and tell her that you must get on with your work.
2007-05-21 08:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess she just likes to be with you . & maybe shelikes to be with u cuz of all the stress. just give her advice & tell her ur always there when she complains. trust me dont tell her she's annoyin. it's gunna efect her alot all she needs at this time (where she has all the stress) is a friend & she isnt tellin u probably cuz she is feelin uncomfortable sayin it all at once give her sometime. : )
2007-05-21 08:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to find some other friends to hang out with rather than her sticking to you like superglue.
2007-05-21 08:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋