I have read that what destroys love are fears. I have noticed that I am always afraid of everybody even if it not visible. I am afraid of people to think smth bad of me, I am afraid not to be the way my relatieves want me and not to fulfill their dreams connected with me, I am afraid to settle down with one person forever because I am afraid he may be not the right one for me while I actually do love him now. I have noticed that I was afraid of all my boyfriends and told this to them in some moments... They were mostly always surprised to hear this as there were nothing to be afraid of... I am always afraid that I am not good enough and not deserve to be loved... And so I broke many relationships... I've read this is because I don't love myself and that these fears come only from inside of me. I wonder how can I love myself and let the fears go? Maybe somebody has any ideas? And also do you agree that nobody can love us more then we love ourselves? Thank you all! :)
Love,
Maria
2007-05-21 01:21:26 · 7 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
First list out the reasons for your fear.
Analyse the reasons.
List out how you can overcome.
Inculcate confidence.
Give more time for yourself.
2007-05-21 01:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Open_Mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I want to say is that love drives out fears (not the other way around!). Second, love is giving; it is about caring others more and caring yourself less. It's not about you. Nobody can love us more than urself? Sometimes I also believe it, but it's not true. Think about you parents or about God (if you are a believer).
2007-05-21 09:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by r083r70v1ch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry that you feel that way, Maria. But all I'll say is this: if you have a boyfriend at the moment, then there must be something good about you.
2007-05-21 08:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please find the book: 'How to be Your Own Best Friend' by Mildred Newman & Bernard Berkowiitz with Jean Owen, published by Random House, New York (1971).
Study it; make it your own; It will transform your life.
2007-05-21 10:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by A.V.R. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself! Relax, rethink your choices and don't forget to breathe.
Fears are prevalent because you allow them to be. I suggest meditation, massage therapy and educational literature.
Don't worry--be happy!
2007-05-21 08:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by RozPot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look past the ugly
2007-05-21 08:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one solution that is for wat ever u fear just do it and see wat happens...I am telling u that nothing will happen and definitely u will come out of fear....
And more than ourselves I Feel parents and frenz love us the most...........
2007-05-21 09:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by sriram t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋