it seems that your friends there have all but forgotten about you? That is happening to me now. I am sure that it not that they set out to "forget me." I think it just reinforces the fact that "When you are gone, you are just GONE!" They people have a life that now does not include me. They are right to go on with their life, as I am right to go on with my new life. But, it does seem rather strange that connections can be cut so quickly. I guess all of this means that "yesterday" and "tomorrow" are just concepts, and that the only thing that really exists is "right now." Any thoughts?
2007-05-21 00:43:22 · 8 answers · asked by Bluebeard 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I surely can relate to this . I moved away for a few years and all i thought about was coming back to my hometown to be with friends. unfortunately the friends i had didnt have the feeling i had for them left in them. since they stayed where they were they moved on and we ( somewhere else) thought of them like nothng changed, the best thing to do is let it go . move forward and make new friends. your not really cutting ties, you are just moving forwad like they have. nothing wrong with that . unless the do you wrong then drop them like a bad habit . sometimes our nastalgia gives us view of people that are no longer reality . people change . dont hold on to the past . the past is the past . it is to be remembered but not re-lived.
2007-05-21 00:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by anna k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the younger you are,the more likely that is to happen,when I was nine I missed school for a little more then a week due to the flu,when I came back my little boyfriend was boyfriend to my *enemy* my best friend was her best friend and she was now captain of a little play ground club I formed..when I was 12 I moved away,came back when I was like 15 with boobs and a body and all the boy's really liked me but the girls hated me...in my 20's moved around in the army,still have some of those friends,long distance friends..but it is weird when we do get to hang out..personalities and interest change...I have lost and made new friends every time I leave town for a while...you will find your place that fits again...just give it time..most of my friends from my younger day's I wouldn't choose to be around later...drugs,drinking and stupid crap....now a lot of those people have died drug and alcohol related deaths..the older I get,the more lasting friendships I have found..people chosen by morals,character and trust..not by how much fun they are to party with...now I don't waste too much time with idle friendships..I only choose friends I can trust in my home,around my kids,..positive good role model types that truly care about my well being..
2007-05-21 01:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have forgotten you because you let them. I have spent my entire life moving around and I have friends all over the place because of it. Just because they don't talk to you every single day doesn't mean they are no longer your friends, your lives just are not as intertwined. I have friends that I talk to once every few months, and they are some of my oldest and dearest friends on the planet. We have our lives in different states, but if I were in dire straights they would be at my side in a second, and vice versa.
Keep in touch and treat them just as you always did and those connections won't be cut.
2007-05-21 00:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by SheSpawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that maybe they didnt FORGET about you.. but i mean your not there so they dont ever see you and theyre prob. trying to move on a little because it hurts to know your not there. so give them a call once in awhile.. not everythings promised.. an everythign happens 4 a reason. soo im sure itll al lwork out!
2007-05-21 00:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cara D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are creatures that require physical contact, eye contact, this is part of bonding with someone and becoming friends. Once you take that away, you take away that friendship also and left only with memories of yesterday.
2007-05-21 00:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal.
We grown apart from each other, when somebody moves, you have to get on with your life.
That's what they did.
2007-05-21 01:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by sweetera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are just a number
2007-05-21 00:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hahaha you have noe friends
2007-05-21 00:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋