How to deal with an accusatory person?

Answer 1

I have had many who were of that type.They were untiringly glib. Ultimately I decided to ignore them. This has saved me from their tirade and has kept me at peace with myself.

Answer 2

I presume that you are mentioning about the blame game that we all have witnessed in our lives at some point. The pertinent question here is, I think - How can we deal with the tendency to pass on the blame?

If we are doing it, then the first step is to own up to it; to catch it and not like it. We can refuse to believe the usual "justifying" feelings and thoughts that accompany it. We can objectively shift the focus to see what part we are playing in what has happened. We can refuse to believe the lie we tell ourselves. We can refuse to believe the lie we tell someone else.

The second step when we are at fault is to admit it. To take the responsibility that is ours. To apologize; to make amends; to come clean; to be truthful; to respect ourselves by being honest.

The third step is to be aware of the easy way out, passing the buck, and consciously choose not to do it. This requires discipline and relearning.

On the other hand, what can we do if we are on the receiving end of the blame game?

Firstly, we can see it as what it is - a person's attempt to avoid consequences. Secondly, we can decide what value there is in defending against the blame. Sometimes, it's a done deal and there is no way to discuss it and reach a different decision - it's time to move on.

Thirdly, we can agree to our part of the responsibility, if that is the actual case, and attempt to reach a compromise.

Fourthly, we can avoid persons and situations where we have already been caught in the blame game, or where we know it is played out.

Bottom line: blaming others may be easy to do but it creates more problems than it solves. We can avoid doing it, or having it done to us.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

t's your office. You spend a large part of your waking hours here. Your daily schedule involves constant, gruelling mindwork as you battle to fulfill your targets.

Under the circumstances, the last thing you want to do is deal with someone whose personal habits annoy you. However, this can, at times, become inevitable, considering people with different beliefs, mindsets, attitudes and work patterns are sharing the same space.

Answer 4

It is simple. You say ' Are you accusing me of _____

Then when they say NO, say I didn't think so. There is a law against creating a hostile work environment, if this is happening at work.

Answer 5

tell the person to kiss the southmost part of your anatomy while you pass. you dont need the headach of dealing with the type... tell person to place hand in front of face bend down thumb and index, well you get the picture... follow instructions

Answer 6

find out what accusatory is

Answer 7

4 mothu

char baar thapad maaro


4 slaps!

Answer 8

it would really depend on who that person is to you ^^; as there are different ways to deal with different people.

Answer 9

don't deal! its their prob