My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have one son together, and a daughter ( which is mine from a previous relationship) We were recently informed that I cant have any more kids. And now he wants a divorce. We both want more children, I wish I could have more. How can I make him see the the 2 children we do have is a total blessing and we can still go on if we cant have more.. I am so distroyed! What should I do, is there anything I can do to make him realize that 2 is enough??
2007-05-20 23:46:14 · 23 answers · asked by Christina W 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can adopt...
2007-05-20 23:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! How selfish, why would you want to be with a husband that doesn't love you anyway? If he did he wouldn't think of leaving you and the children. What about the children you do have together? He wants them to grow up without a full time father just because he wants more siblings for them? How's wrong.
2007-05-21 07:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think (and so will many others) that your husband is a heartless creep if he wants to divorce you because you can't have any more children. Let him divorce you - and watch the expression on the judge's face when he tells HER that he wants to divorce you because you can't have any more kids, and that you already have two children together. You will get the house, the kids, the car, and alimony - mark my words. Your husband is an idiot - give him what he thinks he wants - that will serve him right!
2007-05-21 07:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes a jerk and you deserve better. When I found out for certain I couldnt have children, I was devastated. My husband and I both want children so badly. I was so scared he might want to leave me to find someone who could have children. I was wrong. He has stood by me through it all. You need a man like that. If he really wants more children, you could look into adoption or maybe being a foster parent.
Be careful though, he sounds like his priorities are out of line.
2007-05-21 06:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to make you feel bad but I think your husband is just looking for a way out. There is more going on here than not being able to have more children. If you and he want more there is always adoption.But it will be hard enough to support the two you already have. Maybe you and he should go to a councilor.
2007-05-21 06:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Dixie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, you can't have any more children, and his solution is to abandon his family, and the children he already has made? He sounds like a real gem. Does he realize there are so many children out there desperately in need of a loving family...but is sounds like he's not motivated about building a stable, loving family, he just concerned with "spreading his seed", as it were...that's a really sick and sorry man.
2007-05-21 07:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, I understand things happen beyond our control...but I can't understand why he is being so selfish and throw a temper tantrum because he can't get what he wants and throwing his fam away because of it. I know he is hurt to find he can't have any more kids, but how is he going to throw the one he has away for one that's not even into existence yet. There are other ways such as adopting. There is the surrogate mother thing he could do to have his child...Please encourage counseling and I really do wish you guys the best...for you, him and the sake of the kids.
2007-05-21 06:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so lucky to have a son & a daughter. Now a days one or two children are enough. If you will have more than I don't think you can give them a good future. Think the young ones not yourself.
2007-05-21 06:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by SH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he married you for the right reasons...you aren't supposed to be a baby-making factory. You need to seek counseling. There are other ways to have kids (adoption)...although, I'm not sure you want to bring more kids into the relationship.
2007-05-21 06:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not want to be married to a man who loved me only for my ability to have children. That is outrageous.
So he is prepared to lose the two you've got, rather than love you all and treasure you?
Sorry - he's not worth it. He married you because he loved you and if he had another agenda, well, I'm sorry, but how could you live with him?
2007-05-21 06:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not if he can't see it already. sometimes you have to leave people on their own for a while, let them really soak things in. either make a fuss or go along with what he wants. Make him do everything! teh hard part is, he;s not helping you cope emotionally - at all! he's wrong.
2007-05-21 06:56:24 · answer #11 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋