How to stop feeling sad when people bully you?

Question

I am prety much scared of going outside these days and inside inst much better. I get bullied and teased by my own parents who make fun of me because i dont have a girlfrend and call me names and say i am a nerd.

I feel really sad altough i act like its a joke it really hurts.

When i go outside people judge me because im not cool and i dont have friends.

How can i make these things not effect me so much? Why am i so scared to meet people and go places that i havent been to>

Answer 1

I can't think of anything worse than having to put up with s.h.i.t stirrers, especially if they are under your roof!

My step-siblings were like that too, and as soon as I grew up, I was out of there like a flash. As soon as I removed myself from that environment, I felt a lot better, made friends, did well at work, and life in general got much better too.

Don't let others judge you - who died and made them God? Nobody.

I really don't know how you can stop yourself from being affected by people like that. People like that still affect me to this day, and the following strategies have worked for me:

1. Avoid people like that if you possibly can.

2. If you can't avoid those people, give it straight back to them - it's interesting how such people can dish it out and can't take it back!

3. Pull them off to the side and tell them you are sick of it. There was this one woman at work who used to pull the piss out of me all the time, I pulled her off to the side and had a stern word with her, and she stopped doing it.

Give those strategies a try - they worked for me and I hope they work for you too.

Kind regards, Penny xx

Well said, Peggy! She's got some good advice there too.

Answer 2

You seem pretty young. As you get through school and really get to know people better, you'll see that you're better off NOT being exposed to them.

Kids for the most part are empty headded & spineless when it comes to being themselves. Everyone wants to be part of a group & accepted.

Look at the poplular crowd at your school. Notice how they all talk, act & dress similar to eachother. If one of them suddenly started thinking for themselves, the rest of the group would look at them differently - maybe even shut them out of the "in-crowd".

These are people who cannot think for themselves. They'll go through life conforming, doing & saying things as they were trained. No original thoughts, nothing unique to offer. Just another sheep in the flock.

If you're comfortable doing what you do (whatever it might be), then keep doing it. Don't let peers or parents rock your boat. There's no rule that says you have to be doing THIS or THAT at any particular time. Do YOUR THING.

The best way you can keep human pollution from affecting you, is to not deal with them in the first place. If you don't have to be exposed to ignorant, conformist fools - don't.

Tailor your life to suit you. Put your self interests first & don't deny your pleasures on the count of others insecurities.

Answer 3

Keep in mind one thing. Life is much different when you grow up. The so called Nerds generally are the ones making the most money. Bullies are spineless. They don't pick on people their own size. They usually pick on people that can not defend themselves. If they end up assaulting you, however, you can call the police, and press charges against them. Take their parents to civil court for damages, and I'll bet they leave you alone.

As far as your parents go, tell them that you don't appreciate them calling you a nerd. Tell them that it hurts your feelings and self esteem. If they don't quit, talk to your counselor in school about it.

Answer 4

Fear and intimidation are both things that make us feel that we are not in control and are subject to the influence and direction of others.

You can overcome these by taking charge of the things you can control. You can use will power to do the things you put off and don't do when you should. You can become the master of your own destiny by recognising what behaviour you do that you really don't like or don't want to do.

You can't change others but you have total control over changing yourself and freedom from fear and intimidation is absolutely possible by changing what you don't like about yourself.

Hey, it isn't the easiest thing in the world but it is powerful and it works.

Answer 5

Well you're cautious. You can always work on that, but don't break your neck over it. Cautious isn't the worst thing in the world.

Get a job, work hard, make money, become independent, get a place of your own. If a bully gets his butt in a sling and asks for help, tell him to f*ck off.

Answer 6

Depends. First-time bullies might feel remorse afterwards, but long-time bullies are probably desensitized to it.

Answer 7

well first of all talk to your parents cause if you keep taking it as a joke they will never know that its really hurting you , and as for going out side i feel that you may have confidence issues , something that helped me once was this :
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im not advertising i really did use this , i used to be very un-sociable and quite as i was allways shut down by someone what ever i said , i hope this helps.

Answer 8

Don't care about what others saying, keep doing what you like as long as it won't affect others.