Do you think this is ok?

Question

Do you think it is normal and do you think it is ok for an individual to be a pedophile? Please look at the term before answering.

Pedophilia IS a PIMARY attraction to PREPUBESCENT children (not teens etc) and is NOT an act such as molestation. Pedophiles would rather be with a child than an adult relationship.

I have also asked this before but will attach this in here as well. What would u estimate the percentage of society has these primary attractions? example) Find a 6 year old more attractive than an 18 year old.

I am gathering a little more for a paper I am working on.

Thanks for any opinions. I am just looking for opinions and not necessarily statistics so dont hestiate to answer.

Thanks and I will state this here as well. I am not asking for myself as I have had some ugly remarks. I am just asking questions and am not condoning anything.

Answer 1

you asked two questions: whether it's normal, and whether it's okay, so i'll try to answer both :)

If "normal" would indicate that most adults (more than half) would find a 6 year old more attractive than an 18 year old, i'd say no, i doubt that most adults would find a 6 year old attractive at all (in the sexual sense).

as far as whether it's okay ... well i don't believe we can really control what we think is sexually attractive, so i can't condemn someone simply for their thoughts. actions on the other hand are quite different; it is *not* okay to be sexually involved with a child. it is abuse, and the long term and short term impact on the kid would be unbelievable.

for people to have healthy sexual relationships when they become adults, they must have been loved by and made to feel safe around members of the other gender as children. a frightening experience like sexual contact (terrifying for a kid) would make them feel extremely insecure around members of the other gender as an adult, interfering with intimacy and generally wreaking havoc in their relationships.

i hope this addresses your question. if you personally feel any sexual attraction towards children, i would recommend seeking a therapist with expertise in sexual issues. you're not the only person to experience this, and a therapist you trust and feel comfortable with can help you deal with this stuff before thought turns into action. good luck to you! :)

Answer 2

Of course not! After all love is not just sexual attraction it is also (or at least this what I would like to think) caracter attraction. A normal person would not be attracted from a person of unformed caracter. Even if it were a purely sexual attraction should have have been betwwen persons able to reproduce which means at least late adolescents and needless to say no children. If someone points out the child brides in Europe and Asia in medieval and Renaisance times, I would retort that they were purely political affairs in order to cement alliances and were not meant to be consumated until the brides reached puberty that is adolescence or in other words reproduction age. I hope that my coments did not offend anyone because it was not my intention

Answer 3

The word 'Paedophile' has such negative connotations thanks to frenzied media, that it's going to be very difficult to discuss this rationally, without people getting heated.

Logically, I think that what happens with people is that they grow up at different rates, and sometimes people can get stuck at a certain stage of development for a very long time. I have friends for instance, who are still into punk rock, and lament the good old days passing - this was 30 years ago now. Not unusual in itself, but when you take into account many of their other attitudes & habits, they're single, without kids, good income and stuck at about 17.

I propose that paedophiles get stuck likewise, but at a much younger age.

The best example I can think of is Gary Glitter. Now, when you're 18 and dating 14 year olds, this is seen as being a bad lad, but not really pervy (I grant you the law has changed recently and if reported, this would now be a sex offence). By the time you're 25, dating 14 year olds is wrong by most people's standards; by the time you're 35 it's pervy and unacceptable. For Mr Glitter, who is probably stuck at about 15, all the fuss about his behaviour leaves him a bit stunned.

How you coerce people into letting go and growing, to reach their actual age - I have a few ideas, too long for this answer.

Answer 4

No, I dont' think it's normal. I have a few opinions on "pedophiles"... and I would say 5% of the U.S. population is a pedophile.

One, They are desperate older men, that yearn for a sexual partner that has never had intercourse, and is alot smaller, simply for proportional reasons, as smaller person smaller holes.

Second, if they're anything like Michael Jackson, they were forced to grow up fast, and possibly exposed to scenarios to that of an adult at an extremely young age. So when they reach a certain point, they long to relive the days where they could just play outisde, and live carefree, I'm sure he also changed his skin color and "african" characteristics because of strong and possibly violent acts upon him as a child simply because of his skin color. If you think about it, he did it for "you", he changed the way he looked so people would accept him, ironically he now is dispised by his own heritage. Which shows us, you can't please everyone.

Sorry, I went off on a tanget, but I hope that helped with your school work.

Answer 5

nooooooooooooo it is not ok.. it is the farthest thing from ok.. ask a child years and years down the road if they thought it was ok.. noooooooooooooooooo!!! children are innocent and should be able to stay that way throughout their childhood, and not have their lives all screwed up because of some sick dirty b@stards ways.. good luck with ur paper.. and sorry but this is very sensitive issue.. i have two young children, and omg if anyone ever lay a hand on them, i know for fact i would completely lose my mind..as far as percentage wise, i think i saw on some show years back, saying that there is a pedophile for every 5 square blocks across north america.. somethin like that.. i know there has to be way too many in this world, because i know too many that have been hurt in that sorta way .. very upsetting.

Answer 6

You ask if it is normal, if 1 person in 1000 was a pedophile
then there would only be 6,000,000, of them so it's
pretty common. However most reasonable societies make
sexual exploitation of children a crime to protect those children who cannot protect themselves, it saves us from
dealing with really messed up adults later on. Part of the
problem may lie in the fact that we are genetically inclined
to find babies cute and attractive, pro survival for babies
but some never grow out of that to want adults. then it's
a problem.

Answer 7

It is not OK and it is not normal for a HEALTHY adult to be attracted to a child sexually or otherwise. By definition an adult has reached full developemental maturation, therefore would seek rapport with a true cohort and compatible companion (physical and emotional). Pedophillia is truly one of the most deviant of behaviors whose etiology is hard to establish but usually entails disturbing environmental and psychological conditions. As for the stats on this type of attraction I hesitate to answer as I am not well versed on the exact figure.

Answer 8

I must refer to a cliche` that my mom often told me, that took me nearly 40 years to truly understand. She said "What you fill your mind with is what you become." It's absolutely true. So a pedophile fills his or her mind with images of, and wishes to be with children. People act on what they think about. So, NO! I don't think this is normal, or healthy for either party. I think an enormous number of people develop these "attractions." Just being with a child too often places a burden on the child to respond to the adult in an unhealthy way. The adult who is fascinated with children doesn't have the exposure to healthy adults so she or he can mature. Even if we pretend there is no sexual component to this relationship, it is unhealthy.

Answer 9

Its not normal , but it could be common. I heard a statistic on the Oprah show, that it could be as high as one in twenty men who are like this.
I wonder if this behaviour can be changed, or if its a life sentence? I think it is imporant for people to realise is that if it is really common then these people are our fathers, brothers, friends, husbands, sons, co-workers, cousins, uncles. It isn't just done by somebody we don't know!

Answer 10

"Do you think it is normal and do you think it is ok for an individual to be a pedophile?"

No and no

I'm in my 40's, married, and find no sexual attraction to children, teens, or young adults and find those that do as living in sin by choice. It is obvious those that choose this lifestyle are spiritually bankrupt also by choice and should be dealt with accordingly, not based on assumption, or given excuses.