2007-05-20 18:49:15 · 16 answers · asked by lynkid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating stinks no matter what, but are you married or is it your boyfriend? If your husband that cheated, I would definitely seek marriage counseling. Cheating is hard to get over no matter what, but it is especially hard if you have made a vow to one another not to cheat.
If he is your boyfriend, it's easier. It's up to you if you can forgive or not, but I can tell you this.....it will be very hard to trust again and it might eventually make the relationship harder. If you do forgive...try to forget too. If he makes a habit of it, then get out of the relationship.
Good luck to you. I hope it all works out for the best.
2007-05-20 19:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness does not make what he did okay...it just gives you an opportunity to move on. That is all forgiveness is. So many people are confused saying they can't forgive someone b/c then it would be like saying what they did was okay. No, that is not the case. I have forgiven some people in my life that have hurt me deeply, but b/c I forgave them I am able to now move on and those people no longer have any power over me and my emotions. I would also like to add that I believe I would leave my husband if he ever cheated on me, but I guess you never know until you're in that situation. Anyhow, forgiveness is more for you than the other person!
2007-05-20 19:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to ask that question. It is totally up to you. You should not let anyone else tell you what to feel. Personally I don't believe that things are ever the same after someone cheats. Lots of times people will forgive and try to forget but it doesn't work. I will tell you one thing. IF you decide to forgive and go on with the relationship you need to eventually let it go. I personally could not though.
2007-05-20 18:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a personal decision. Really, you need to do it for your own well being, not his. Forgetting is another situation altogether. Just because you forgive someone, that doesn't mean that you are OK with it or are justifying it.
Forgiveness is a way of you letting go and giving yourself permission to move forward and not dwelling on the past.
2007-05-20 19:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lannee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you, weather to forgive or not only you know the story. I forgave my wife when we were boy friend /girlfriend we got married she cheated again now we are divorced. Every situation is different!
2007-05-20 19:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your decision. If your asking my opinion....you said he cheat..ed well that word no longer exists when referring to your b/f cuz he's now a CHEATER and he CHEATS cuz it will happen again and again and again and most likely again. I dont know about you but "forgiving" is not the part that would have me constantly tormenting....my main torment would be can i "FORGET" or will it be a constant picture in my mind and cause fights between me and my b/f
2007-05-20 18:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on if he was really sorry about what he did.....and described to me in words what preventative measures he would take in not ever cheating on me again! He and I would have to go through some counseling and he would have to be very patient with me only learning to live with it. He would truly have to realize that the trust was broken and that I might be looking over my shoulder for a very long time....maybe forever? When I would go through depression about it all and have flashes in my mind of him and her havin sex together he better be able to carry my pain! It would take some time for me to ever feel secure with him and that would all depend on how he treated me from there on out. He would have to work very hard on the relationship that he choose to break down and if he really loved me he would find the energy within himself to fight in keeping me in his life. We would have to recommit to the relationship and start all over again because things would have to be different because he changed my world with him as he allowed me to know it.
2007-05-20 19:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the rest of the world most spouses cheat it doen't make it right but its just what hppens so you might as well forgive you might need forgiving one day.
2007-05-20 19:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really! Cheating is wrong and now that he already did you don't know if he will do it again. Do you think you could really trust him? It may be hard but you need to let him go.
2007-05-20 18:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
true love dont cheat on there spouces . once this happens it will again. and every time you look at a chater you always wonder when it will happen again . and why he did this to you it.s better to face reality on matters like this than think it will never happen again once this happens you lose respect for that person and many a good marrage has ended over this in my opion?
2007-05-20 19:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋