Or do you sit back and let them learn ?
2007-05-20 18:42:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My teens are always telling me to stay out of their business. I try to stop them from making mistakes and getting hurt but they never listen. A couple good examples that happened recently...... my 16 yr old was at a friends house and called me and said she was going to dye her hair blonde. I told her it was a bad idea and that she could seriously mess her hair up. I told her not to do it but if she did, I did not want to hear about it if she fried her hair. She came home that night with bright orange dried out hair. She had beautiful hair and now it is ruined. She tried to put a guilt trip on me because I refused to help her fix it. I just kept reminding her that I told her not to do it and I told her what would happen. I hope she learns her lesson from me NOT bailing her out. Another example is my 18 yr old was dating someone and we kept warning her this person would only hurt her and use her. Of course she told us to "butt out" and this person really hurt her badly. All I could say is, I told you not to be with them for this very reason. Younger kids, we can stop from making mistakes like not running out in front of cars but the older they get, the harder it is to stop them. Sometimes it is best to say why we think they should NOT do something but let them learn on their own.
2007-05-20 19:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You correct your children. If they were taking a long walk off a short pier would you just sit there and "let them learn?" If your kids are not the brightest bulbs on the block, how many mistakes would you let them make and how would they feel if all they do is make mistakes and mom sits there and watches them screw it up and then says, "Now kids, the lesson we learn from that is you do not put your hand in the garbage disposal and turn it on. Are you listening one-hand?
2007-05-21 01:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they would be in danger of getting hurt physically, I think they should be stopped. If they would be hurt irreparably, I think they should be stopped otherwise I think it is a good thing to let them learn by their mistakes so they know the lesson they learned instead of hear the lesson to be learned and maybe someday go out and repeat it on their own because they didn't have the experience of doing it on their own in the first place.
2007-05-21 01:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by VetSupporter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean stop them before they run into a street > or correct them when they color out of the lines.
Typical leberal parents will let the kid urinate on the coffee table first and explain to them afterward that a coffee table is not a toilet.
Typical liberal parents will let their kids make mistakes because they are too lazy to correct them. Or they do not know how to raise a kid because they were not raised right.
2007-05-21 01:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by caciansf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the mistake. Some mistakes, of course, have to be left for them to correct for several good reasons--to give them experience-to make them feel good about themselves when they figure it out one way or the other-and they also learn by their mistakes.
But if the mistake is going to cause them danger to themselves or to others, then I have to step in to try to solve the mistake.
2007-05-21 01:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the mistake is going to hurt them, or someone else, I will stop my child immediately. If the mistake is going to be a learning experience (eg. building a fort, tying shoes, putting clothes on the right way) I will not interrupt. Children need their independence as soon as they can get it.
2007-05-21 02:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hav any kids but if i did,i would stop them and explain to them why they shouldn't do that mistake in a nice way and if they don't learn,they'll be grounded for 3 minutes!(i'm not very mean since i AM a kid)
2007-05-21 01:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥nini-chan♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have kids of my own, "Im 23" but I believe that you need to let your kids make their own mistakes, altho there are times were there mistakes will lead to serious problems, this is were they need your guidence, Making mistakes with pip-bombs is not really the way to go ....
2007-05-21 01:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by El Diablo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to learn is from your mistakes...however some people just never learn
2007-05-21 01:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by taker_of_souls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what it is. If it's something that they can get seriously physically hurt then of course.
If its something we all need to go through, or I've told them 20 million times, then nope, I let them learn.
2007-05-21 01:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by santobugito 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋