I have been married for a year now .My problem is that me and my husband have very different sex drives .where

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as I want it nearly everyday he wants it once in 10 days .When I tried to solve it and told him plainly that due to this problem I am becoming irritable and am not happy .he said that he just doesnt want it and I am forcing it on him .I have tried all ways and its not that he doesnt like to have it with me but the simple thing is that he just doesnt want it frequently .I am really troubled over it as we dont even have children till now and i am thinking how will i live like this throughout my life >I just dont know why he is like this ? plzzzzzzzzzz help

Answer 1

You need to find out why his drive is so low and that you need to compromise to stay happy

Answer 2

First of all, let me express my frustration in the fact that once again a woman is trying to chage the man! You knew that he had a low sex drive when you married him. You have talked and he says that he feels like you are forcing sex on him. If you had come on yahoo and said that your husband was forcing sex on you, the women here would have already started the lynch mob. Let him alone. He has a low sex drive. That is who he is. You married who he was, now live with who he is! Ok, with all of that said, If he is willing (or if you are slick enough) there are a few things that you can do. There are a number of different aphrodesiacs both Rx and non-Rx that you can get him to take (or slip in his food if you have to). There is an androgyn crean that you can rub on his lower back or buttock when he is sleeping that will increase his sex drive. You should be able to get your GYN to give you a Rx for it.There are natural supplements like Yohimbe, Ginseng, Horny Goat Weed and others (check out a health food store and explain the problem to a female clerk). You can break open one or two capsules and stir it into his food. This may sound odd, but science has proven the theory. Smell is the most primitive way of memory printing for all of the animal kingdom. Let your Pheremones do the work for you. When you next find yourself feeling "moist", PAT, (this is important, as you don't want to leave the case crusty or flaky), pat the "kitty" dry with his pillowcase. Put it back on the pillow and let him spend the night smelling your "fragrance". This is sure to put a rise in his nature. He'll wake up feeling like a bull in a cow pasture and won't know why. By the way, you should probably not tell him. Even if it takes a couple of nights, he can't beat the power of human nature. Hope this helps. Good Luck and Happy Humping!

Answer 3

Women always complain about the sex drive of their husbands people are just different that way you need to just accept that!!! This is not something he is DOING TO YOU but it it is just a fact of life. Do you complain about gravity and wish it were different and think that it is the fault of Mother Earth? Men hit their sexual peek at 18 and women hit it at age 30!! Did you marry an older man (like 25 or older) if so he is just in a decline!! If a man asked this question he would be called a pervert. If he feels you are forcing it on you then that is called rape I hope that you are just exaggerating this or you are in big trouble!!


You know the saying what goes around comes around when boy teenagers try to initiate sex the girls usually slap them on the face metaphorically speaking! This can have a big effect as the boy grows up into a man so he may just act like the girls did then and slap your face metaphorically speaking!!

Answer 4

My fiance' and I have had rough spots too and that just brings a lot of tension between the two of us.This will be both of our 2nd marriage and both have children, and not with each other.Our sex life had sizzled down dramatically but we talked about all of our issues.Especially my problems that he has been doing! We talked about when we first met and how it was and will try to work on it.So if the 2 of you can't sit down and talk about it, see a counselor together.You need to find out what the problem is so everything can get better. Mine sure did!

Answer 5

If he is not under stress, as is pointed to by another person answering above, then I think you should get him some testosterone supplements, e.g. testrogel, and some multivitamins, selenium and some of the libido increasing agents that are sold at health food shops. I am not a medical practitioner, but he owes this to you. He is your husband and while you may be a bit demanding, he had to make some effort, unless he wants you to find satisfaction elsewhere, which would be revolting and stupid.

Answer 6

That's really something to talk with your doctor about dear....there could be a physiological reason for both low and high sex drives.

Make sure you find out and tackle this before you start placing blame on one another - words hurt and they ARE remembered.

Communicate with him though!! Get to a private place together and talk about it!!

Ask him if he would be happy to help you in "other ways"?? There are "other ways" a loving man can help the lady he loves, are there not?

Would you be happy if he could help you in "other ways"??

Communicate - and see your doctor. Don't play the blame game, that will only lead to hurt feelings.

Answer 7

That's frustrating in a very literal way. It's good that you tried to approach it directly. Couples therapy would be the next stop you need to "get off" on. You're probably going to have to work some masturbation into the schedule, but a good couples therapist might be able to help you to come to a solution that works for both of you.

Answer 8

Your problem is not unique and, of course, happens to both men and women. Masturbation is only a partial answer. Consider going to couples counseling or see a sex therapist, either together or separately or just yourself. This is an issue that really calls for a specialist. If you want to maintain your marriage, then seek help.

Answer 9

Maybe give him the statistics of people who "cheat". Maybe ask him what he would do if you did go out and find sex outside of the marriage? Remind him of the saying "cause and effect". While a person is not forced to go outside the marriage to find what they are needing....they usually dont do it for no reason. You have tried talking to him. You have tried everything so you say, and still he is not listening. I guess if you went out and found "love" outside the marriage he would totally blame you and not look at the reasons why you felt the need to do it.....cause and effect. I am not advocating you having an affair, far from it, I am just trying to demonstrate what could happen if he continues to ignore your needs. Warn him of the danger his lack of attention may cause. Allow him to look at possible consequences before they happen.

Answer 10

How was it before you got married? Does he have a lot of stress in different areas of his life? Did you gain weight? Maybe he has some health problems he don't want to talk about! Maybe if none of this applies you need to back up, give him something to think about, you need to get into the bible and read up on marriage and show him some scriptures. I hope I was of help.

Answer 11

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