im invited a friend of my who having wedding.. which my baby will be only 1 month year old.. is it bad for the baby to bring the wedding?.. i need help some idea, cause this is my first baby...
2007-05-20 18:08:54 · 18 answers · asked by DontKnow 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Hi! I'm a wedding coordinator here in the Philippines. Let me share with you what I think (and have gone through) about this matter:
1. If you're lactating and you're invited to a wedding, I suggest to pump milk before leaving the house (ergo, don't bring the baby). Feeding your baby while, say, the ceremony or reception is on going will isolate you from the celebration. A wedding is an important chapter in a couple's life, and we don't want their guests leaving in and out.
2. Bringing a baby would focus the attention away from the couple and going towards YOUR baby. Nothing wrong with that, but you could show a bit of courtesy for the "stars" of the day.
3. The solemnity of the wedding rites might be interrupted with cries of your baby.
4. You may also choose the ultimate sacrifice...not attending the wedding. Your baby needs your time and attention. Trust me, the couple won't feel bad about you not being there. They would understand...unless they're the kind of people who lack the ability to understand. Have somebody stand in your behalf, especially if you have a key role in the wedding rites.
Hope I was able to help.
2007-05-20 18:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Edmundo M 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
first of all was the baby invited. Did the invititation say your name and the baby's or 'family'? It's not bad to bring a baby to a wedding if the baby is invited. A 1 month old will mostly sleep at the wedding but just in case sit on the end of the aisle to make a quick escape should the baby start to cry. No one wants to take their vows over a crying baby.
2007-05-20 18:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the wedding is in the town you live in, it might be easier just to get a sitter for a few hours. If you have to travel, you may have no choice but to bring the baby with you. We had to travel 300 miles for a wedding when my baby was just 6 weeks old. We were in a different town staying in a hotel so a sitter wasn't an option. We sat in the back near a door just in case we needed to make a quick escape, but honestly babies that are one month old do little else but sleep and that's what ours did during the entire ceremony (full Catholic Mass lasting over an hour). We've got another wedding coming up in June, she'll be 6.5 months old and again its an out of town wedding so she'll be coming along. We'll use the same plan of sticking to the back of the church. Just keep in mind that their right to a quiet wedding trumps your right to view the entire thing, so if you have to leave for part or all of the ceremony to keep the peace then do so.
2007-05-20 18:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went to a wedding when my son was a couple months old and I took him and the babysitter with me!
That way I could nurse my son in between the rehearsal, and dinner, and the ceremony, and reception, etc. And the babysitter didn't mind. We had to stay over night at the hotel (where the reception was) anyways, so we had a hotel room where the baby and babysitter could stay and play. Even if you don't have a hotel room, the babysitter could sit out in the "lobby" of the church while the ceremony is going on.
You do need to be very careful about the baby getting near too many people (germs.) I dont' think you should let anyone except you and the babysitter hold the baby.
By the way - the babysitter was my mom :)
Good luck!
2007-05-21 01:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by amber 18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are breastfeeding then your baby really should stay with you.
I would just go to the actual wedding part and not the reception.
If she is only 1 month old she should be pretty quiet as she will either be sleeping or feeding. If not a quiet baby then you can always sit up the back close to the door for a quick exit!
I wouldn't go to the party afterwards for a couple of reasons:
* You will probably be exhausted as it takes a few weeks to recover from childbirth and feeding every 2-3 hours all day and night.
* After a couple of hours, your baby will eventually be "over-stimulated" by all of the noise and attention. An over-stimulated baby is VERY cranky and VERY difficult to settle.
* Your baby's immune system will be quite immature at that time and you do not want to over-expose him or her to too many germs.
* You probably wont really enjoy yourself because you will be worrying about the baby all night.
2007-05-20 18:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is probably best to ask the bride and groom how they feel about children and babies at their wedding. Some don't want to risk a baby crying during their service, but others enjoy the sounds of family and friends around them and don't mind the potential interruptions. You may need to keep the baby close by in case the baby is breastfed and have to give all your attention to it ... there are a lot of factors to think about but definitely ask your friend first. Good luck!
2007-05-20 18:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by ms. ovechkin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a formal wedding, then a 1 month old baby ought to be left in the care of a sitter.
2007-05-20 18:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jolly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is how old?? If the baby is still in diapers or not potty trained, I wouldn't take him to the wedding. If you can get a good baby sitter; not a teen, that might be the best thing to do.
2007-05-20 18:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bring my baby to the wedding. If anyone had a problem with it, I wouldn't go to the wedding. A one month old needs their mother and if your friend expects you to go, then she should expect you to bring your little darling.
If you are comfortable taking your baby out in public and probably getting fussed over a lot, go have fun and show off the baby :)
2007-05-20 18:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I just went to a wedding on Friday with my 3 month old and I wouldn't do it again. He screamed during the middle of a heartfelt toast, and I had to run outside w/ him, he fussed the entire time, and every time I had to nurse him I had to excuse myself to go out to the car, not to mention at one point my bf sister took him out on the dance floor , were he was passed to about 6 different people some of whom I didn't even know. I was a nervous wreck. I recommend getting a sitter, or staying home.
2007-05-20 18:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by ann847 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋