Am I around just for the money? yes and no. I love him, 11 yrs is a long time to forget all the good times we had and still have when he is on vacation from cheating. (he has gone 6-7 months without seeing either one of them, (or so i think) But I know he will never change. He cheats because he wants to be able to "get over on me" (I promise never to see them again...HA HA HA I'm doing it again and she doesn't have a clue) We are not married yet we lived and worked together at HIS business for the entire 11yrs. I would never get a dime. California does not honor the common law marriage. (believe that one would you) anyway. I am in business with his help. If i pulled out now i wouldn't have a chance of surviving. 3-6 months yes, now, no way. I still don't deserve to be cheated on or lied to, especially when he knows i know where he has been.
2007-05-20 18:02:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all i can suggest is to wait the 3-6 months until you have the independance, then turn your back on him and forget all about him. if you can secure your new found independance in any way, then do it. good luck with it! :D
2007-05-21 02:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by ktulu_has_awoken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it 2
2007-05-20 18:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you allowed it to get to the 11yr point in the first place. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You don't deserve to be cheated on, but I don't think you realized that soon enough. Once is enough to walk away. Take your time to prepare yourself to leave, and then do it. He does at least owe you that much. I think you are wrong about the never getting a dime thing. Consult an attorney to be sure of your options.
2007-05-20 18:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by tvm209 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
11 years is a long time but you dont have to forget about the good times but you have to stop living in the bad times you need to move on and build a new life with someone that deserves you believe me other jobs will come around
2007-05-20 18:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by breakdown 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you work for his company. legally start putting money back into you a savings account. stay with him and be the don't have a clue girlfriend. in the mean time start a fire with another man and do not get caught. for instance you know your boyfriend is out with a woman then you go out with your new flame. but always beat him home. never let on like something is going on. and if he asks you deny it. tell your new flame the truth. but never give out your home phone number or address. use text messaging only. and put his number under a females name. tell him to just send codes. for instance if he wants you to come over tell him to text shopping time. kill your boyfriend with kindness. have him supper ready every night. run his bath water. iron his clothes. this will confuse the hell out of him. also in the mean time look for another job and an apartment
after months of saving tell him you do not feel well and just wanted to stay home and while he is working pack your bags and move out.
2007-05-20 18:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by adk_in_ar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows he has you by the short and curlies, what a jerk he is. Hang in there for the 3 months, work like a dog, but don't let him see everything you're doing. Especially if you're making photocopies of documents of his that he doesn't want the IRS knowing about .... ;-)
You're frustrated, yes, but remember, revenge is a dish best served cold.
2007-05-20 20:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common law marriage isn't 'honoured' in the UK either- unless you want to claim social security benefits! I am not sure what the question is but re-gather yourself esteem, tell yourself you deserve better then go get better! He won't change not long as he got an hole in his sorry butt.
2007-05-20 20:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Even leave that business if need be. But, go. You deserve better. You won't get anyone better unless you go, and then reach out for the good guys.
2007-05-20 18:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a complete a#se..
move out, move on.. you will be far better off...
2007-05-20 20:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by tiny_lou1965 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a freakin' question in there?
2007-05-20 18:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kayt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋