My friends dog recently died, and when i didnt immediatly send my condolences, but instead started talking about something eles, she got upset [which i understand], but then when she got mad because I didnt know how she disposed of the dogs remains, she got more mad, saying i wasnt listening, which in reality i dont really know!!
how do i get her to know i really am sorry about her dog, and that im a good listener, and that lately things have been really messed up in general.
2007-05-20 17:47:34 · 9 answers · asked by woah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her you are sorry and let her know you love her. then it is in her court
2007-05-20 21:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by tomboyneedsplaymate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone has an issue on their mind and trusts you enough to discuss it, they're not interested in hearing about your issues until they have finished with their subject. They were first. So if you hear but don't listen, your response will be off subject...and rejected. If someone tells you their problem, listen, validate their problem, sympathize or support them in however they have decided to deal with their problem and maybe even ask if there is anything you can do to help them with their problem. After they have exhausted the discussion of their problem, then, and only then, is it appropriate to bring up your own issues.
2007-05-20 17:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time. She is probably pretty stressed b/c of her loss. She'll cool down in a few days, apologize for being insensitive and ask her to tell you again. Then try to explain what has been going on in your life that has caused you some turmoil. Good luck.
2007-05-20 17:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by ~Charity~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would send her a creative witty kinda card (made by you) that includes a lotta inside jokes and stuff... it also seems like she would like it if u included some information about her dog to show that you know and care. my friend's dog just died too and i wrote things like how cute it was, how i petted it when no one was around, what a long and eventful life it had, remember when she had puppies?.. ya know, things people wana hear. good luck
2007-05-20 17:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her is the dog really her problem are is it some thing else.
2007-05-20 17:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You're an a s s for doing that... have some respect for something that's passed away and give her some comfort.
don't do it again.
2007-05-20 17:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Randy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
request her to listen to u patiently.
speak to her from ur heart.
u can give her a card expressing that u r sorry
2007-05-20 17:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by preyanka r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her phone but block your number so she wont ignore your call.
or randomly show up at her house?
2007-05-20 17:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk up to her, recite those words sincerely, and give her a hug.
2007-05-20 17:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by ah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋