How can a woman be like this?

Question

tell you you are the love of her life. tell you i love you so much while she looks in your eyes. tell you she wouldn't know what she would do without you. tell you don't ever leave me. tell you she wanted your baby.....then get pregnant without planning it with you (not taking her birth control without your knowledge), getting an abortion, yelling at your kids, and then moving out suddenly and then looking for a new house 5 days later. hello. what am i missing?

Answer 1

It's possible she's bipolar.

My husband told me how much he loved me and wanted to give me the sun, moon, and stars just weeks before he left me for another woman. 2 weeks before he broke the news he didn't want to be married any more we were dancing in the kitchen while I made dinner. He even wanted me to start looking for more land so that we could build another house. He then made allegations that our son wasn't his (I had never been unfaithful to him - not even in my dreams), said that he had never loved me - that he knew on our wedding day he was making a mistake, that I had ruined his life, and dozens of other accusations that were unfounded and/or untrue. Turns out he was bipolar and had to be medicated. He even blamed me for 'making' him bipolar (his sister is bipolar also). That was 3 yrs. ago. He threw almost 13 yrs. of marriage and his son's only chance of having a full-time family out the window. Now he's living the singles life - I don't know if he's still on his meds or not because he's made some really bad choices and gives his son only enough attention to keep the court system at bay.

Your wife needs professional help. Try to get your kids into counseling - they are going to need a lot of attention, counseling, and understanding through this. Our son hated his dad for the first year after he left. He wanted to kill him even. Things have improved - his dad has bought him off pretty much - but that first year was a rough one. Being flipped back and forth between two homes (plus his dad has moved 3 times since) hasn't helped. His grades and his sense of self have suffered tremendously. He used to cry because he thought he would be a bad father one day, too (this was after a health class that discussed bipolar disorders and that they are often hereditary).

I don't envy you but my prayers are with you.

Answer 2

Well first of all her getting pregnant without your knowledge. Come on. Were you wearing protection? Then as far as your part of course it was possible she was able to get pregnant.
For the rest, Maybe she just decided you arent the one. Or this isnt the relationship for her. Maybe the pregnancy freaked her out. Maybe you werent that supportive and her hormones that she had from the pregnancy made her come to some difference senses. Maybe she just had a change of heart. Have you asked her. Maybe that may help shed some light. If she dont want to tell you then maybe it just wasnt meant to be.

Answer 3

I don't know but something went wrong??? did the two of you get into some kind of dispute over her getting pregnant with out informing you about it first?? Maybe she thinks that you don't want her now that she is pregnant? Maybe she did not expect it to be a problem if she just allowed herself to get that way? That is the only thing that I can think of as to why she is reacting this way. An abortion after all of this maybe what she thought you wanted and she was so hurt that she just ened everything sweetie,.

Answer 4

You didn't listen to her. She wanted your baby but when you didn't respond when she was carrying it she decided you didn't want her to have it so she dumped the baby. Then when you didn't object to the abortion she dumped you. No wonder she moved out, you weren't answering her questions the right way. Do you really want her? If so, ask her what whe wants and tell her she needs to be more specific when communicating with you. On the other hand, she apparently thought you were a mind reader and understood what was happening. Maybe you're better off without her. But I wonder about whether you were truly listening to her when she told you how she feels.

Answer 5

She sounds unstable and to say she might be bipolar (like other answerers) is questionable. But, she sounds like she may have some unresolved issues going on in her life that causes such actions. With that in mind, you might want to reconsider having her in your llife again and with a name like yours "survivor" it should'nt be all the difficult especially when it's for the better. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

You are missing a woman unlike the one that i hope is out of your life for good now!!! if not then i would say u are missing a good therapist to find out why.learn from the experience and move on,please.good luck.

Answer 7

She is either really mentally unstable or is having some unresolved issues with herself or you. I wouldn't care what the reason is..if she is being irrational to your kids and has aborted your child....RUN! It can't be worth it.

Answer 8

Trying to manipulate, con and trap you and then changing her mind when things didn't quite go according to plan. I think that Bi-Polar is far to generous. I think she took you for a major ride.

Answer 9

She needs professional help, and you are probably lucky she left now, cause she doesn't sound like the type of person to have around children.

Answer 10

possibly she is having some sort of a problem where she needs to find some sort of help, somewhere there is instability and she needs to fix that before trying to do anything in her personal life.