Advice for a good marriage?

Question

Im getting married soon to the most wonderful guy. I wanna have a successful marriage.
Any tips?

Answer 1

Keep the lines of communication open

Answer 2

Don't stress about the little things....reelly, so many marriages fight about the most silly things that really dont matter and you spend the first half of your marriage together fighting all the time, until one day you realise how much time has been wasted and you just cant be bothered anymore!
Always treat your partner as though it will be the last time you will ever see him.
1. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
2. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
3. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
4. At least once a day, try to say something complimentary to your spouse.
5. Never meet without an affectionate welcome.
6. "For richer or poorer" - rejoice in every moment that God has given you together.
7. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate.
8. If they're breathing, your mate will eventually offend you. Learn to forgive.
Congratulations!

Answer 3

As Bree said above.... COMMUNICATION is the key, without it you're not getting far.

Don't assume anything, if you think he said something, make sure that's what he said before you start interpretting it your way. Guys don't read minds, so if you want something done, you communicate it to him. If you two haven't live together before, then you communicate your expectations, don't expect him to put the toilet seat down if you never tell him. If he does something that ticks you off, don't sit there and consume it for days without telling him what he did or didn't do right, communicate...

We were happily married for 6 months (end of the honeymoon) before we hit a major bump, and the problem was communication. By the time our first anniversary came around, we were ready to leave each other. After some serious praying, we worked through it and are now happier than ever, going on 4 years. So yeah, again, I can't emphasize how important communication really is...

Answer 4

If you honestly want a great start go get these books, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" and read them. They are both by Dr. Laura.

If you want a marriage that can last a lifetime then learn from these books. You need to understand the difference between men and women and what makes each one tick. We are so different, men and women.

Also, make sure that you are always a team and be sure to show him everyday how much you love him and appreciate him. Your love will be returned. Also, remember, if you have had a bad day, instead of venting it all on him, give him a big hug and lots of love. The more love you give the better you feel and it will be returned tenfold. Be your husband's dream girl and let him be your knight in shining armor.

Answer 5

Be very open and honest from the beginning. Communication and trust are the most important factors, so make sure you trust him and you are comfortable telling him anything. Don't be too wrapped up in each other's lives because when that gets old you'll both be miserable. Be balanced, keep a few close friends and some money to yourself. Have quality time, but also have time away from each other. You have a lifetime to share together so take it slow and remember to be happy. Stay young, take walks on the beach, ride your bikes together, swing at the park, swim. Accept the bad with the good.

Answer 6

Dedicate yourselves to the emotional well being of each other, and make your marriage the bedrock you build the rest of your lives upon. NEVER let the boring, mundane things of life get in the way of your relationship. ALWAYS have a plan to refresh, and renew your relationship. Date nights, holidays, time off to be just you two, what ever it takes. Communicate, and learn communication skills so you can talk about the bad stuff too when it happens without things getting out of hand. Remember that marriage is 24/7/365, and enjoy every minute of it. Ignore the marriage naysayers, and laugh at their pitiful BS. Love each other always, and tell each other you love them always.
Good Luck.

Answer 7

I have been married 16 years,my tips to u would be-communication,many stop talking to each other about things that matter to u both.honesty is another,but do be sensitive to his or her feelings.remember to always make each other know they are loved and appreciated,many take each other for granted.take an interest in each others dreams and aspirations.finally,dont expect the other to remain the same-people do change-respect that,and be ready for the downs,if handled with communication and respect your marriage will even get stronger.Congratulations to u both,all the best.

Answer 8

Never spend the income of both partners. Live on only one salary. That way you can save for a rainy day!

Never go to bed angry. Make=up sex is sensational.

Say "I love you" every day. Love is a decision, not a feeling.

Respect the ideas of your partner. Always.

Appreciate the fact that you can agree to disagree about anything.

Always be more concerned about the welfare of your partner than the appearance of your car in an accident.

Always be happy for others' success.

Give more than 100 percent of yourself to the marriage.

Never ask a third person for advice for your marriage. Your problems should remain between the TWO of you.

Answer 9

Don't let your mate suffer alone. be there. Don't send him up a tree then leave. Learn to drive at night, on freeways. He should learn to assist you in any kind of housework. He should be available to be a pack mule when needed. He should learn to get along with your family, and your cat. Don't reject his family even if they are a bunch of weirdos. He responsible for them anyway. Let him, as in put up with it, listen in peace to his music, loud as the neighborhood will stand, for one hour. Pay attention to what he does right after work, is he agitated, or exhausted, both. Get rid of his friends, except one, he can keep one. He should not have to put up with your cranky butt first thing in the morning. Make his lunch, or whatever he take from home, the night before. Let him sleep whenever he is, don't let him snore. Three things to help. He gets to watch an entire football game, just one, undisturbed. He gets to read a book, often, He gets to nap on your side of the bed. Guys must be treated likel the ladies they really are. Dress to kill before sex, and send flowers to his job, every so often, you-know when he's been good. best.. By the way, play ' closer' during the service, by nin.

Answer 10

Anytime you get really mad at him, take a deep breath and remember the moment you looked into his eyes and said "I do", always be in tune to your partners wants and needs, never go to bed mad even if you don't get any sleep at all that night, don't get complacent, always keep it fresh, never forget that you love this man!
You will have many ups and downs in your marriage and there are times when you will be very angry with each other, that is normal, but keep the above in mind and know that with your partner you can handle any situation and can weather any storm.
Congratulations and may your marriage always be as happy as your wedding day!

Answer 11

Communication is the key dear. Don't stop communicating, even if you are fighting.

Don't fight seriously. Nothing is worth losing or hurting the one you love.

Because at the end of the day, you will look at each other, you will know that you're both in love with one another and nothing is worth the loss of that!!

Care for each other. Think about each other's feelings. Share feelings and keep each other engaged in solving problems, sharing, asking advice.

REAL communications. Without that, you're as good as divorced.