We have a 8 month old baby and were invited to a wedding out of town. We asked if was okay to bring our daughter and was told yes. We RSVP'ed to the wedding and now are told that they are "discouraging" children at the wedding and dinner. What should we do now? Other important information: I'm still breasfeeding.
2007-05-20 16:51:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
We live far away from our families and have never left her with a sitter before.
2007-05-20 17:13:47 · update #1
Well, you can always bring the baby, saying you asked before you made the RSVP's. Or you can get whats called a breast pump. And pump the milk from your breast and store it, for a babysitter. Someone that is already close to the baby. Don't go for too long though, babies sense when their mother isn't there.
Best of luck!
2007-05-20 16:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by jenn_o3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go ahead and bring her along. If you were already told it was ok to bring you baby, but later informed that they're discouraging children...it probably means they don't want a bunch of kids running around knocking over drinks and launching mints at each other. If you're concerned that your baby will be at all disruptive during the ceremony (which probably won't be a problem) you could always skip the ceremony and attend the reception where a baby will be less noticable and you can easily slip out of the room if she starts to fuss.
2007-05-20 17:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by EB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would double check with them again either over the phone or in person. It's possible that they don't mind the baby because she is not walking yet and won't be in the way. If they would prefer the baby not go and you don't feel comfortable with a sitter then sit out this wedding. There will always be other weddings, parties, and dinners to go to, if you can't go to this one.
2007-05-20 17:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit at the back at the wedding, and if the baby starts making noise sneak out the back door. Or try to get your baby to do nap time during the wedding. Don't worry about the reception, there will be so many things happening that no one will really notice any way. If they said it was ok then go with it. And about the breast feeding, pump if possible (I couldn't do it to save my life) or just take some kind of juice in a sippy.
2007-05-20 16:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jeani 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just answered this question to another person.
Take the babysitter with you! I took my son and the babysitter to a wedding when he was a couple months old and it worked out very nicely. Especially if you have a hotel room! The babysitter came to the ceremony with us and kept the baby out in the "lobby - narthex" and I could sit inside without interruption. Then I nursed the baby at the church and when we went to the reception (at the hotel) the baby sitter went back to the room and we went to the party. Since I'm a new mom and super over protective, I went to our room to check on him or nurse every hour or so.
You are still faced with finding someone you trust, but at least the baby is still "with" you and not far (hours) away.
My babysitter was my mom (so we just had one hotel room and she stayed over night with us.) But if its worth it to you and the babysitter isn't a relative, you could just get 2 rooms... I think that would be worth the piece of mind to have your baby so close to you rather than back at home with a sitter.
Good luck!
2007-05-21 01:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by amber 18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are changing their mind about allowing you to bring the baby, then I would change my mind about going. Say that you are sorry you cannot come, as you are still breastfeeding.
We were invited to a wedding when my son was 3 months old. It was not an adult only reception; however, had it been, we wouldn't have gone. I was nursing.
2007-05-20 17:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by AV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you pump and have a close friend or relative babysit? If not I'm sure it's fine to bring the baby. Usually when a couple says that, they are talking about kids who are old enough to run around, and possibly be disruptive.
2007-05-20 16:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the last wedding I attended, there was a sweet baby who ended up screaming. I felt it was rude for them to have brought the child. If you do, you should be more than prepared on what to do to leave quick, cause no one wants to not be able to hear their vows over a screaming baby
2007-05-20 17:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take my baby to that wedding but sit near a rear entrance in case she got a lil grumpy. Besides they already said it was ok and it would probably b hard for you to part w/your baby for a few days right now.
2007-05-20 17:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by NuMomiNow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pump, hire your siblings to babysit for the week, or you parents and enjoy the wedding vows without outbursts from a child!
2007-05-20 17:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by samee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋