I aksed this question earlie, and I still recieved no answer yet.
I stated that my husband and I had a really wonderful weekend and every thing went great, but the problem is that to me it all just seems to real to be true to me and we've only been married for a couple of months and it is just too perfect to me. And with all that I have been through with the bad choice of men it all just seems to real to be true.
He tells me he loves me and shows it without fail surprises me with gifts and things and roses and all of that, I just don't know whats to it, I'm scared that Dr. Jeckle & Mr. Hide might pop out of no where and tha will be the end of it all.
Whats wrong with me & why do I feel this way when every thing seems to be fine?
2007-05-20 16:28:52 · 5 answers · asked by menadking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love has no fear, but perfect love cast out all fear!!!
God is love and often times I feel he is too good to be true, but believe I know he is. so if he is love then the sky is the limit for your marriage!!!
2007-05-20 16:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a question for yourself - how you feel about yourself more then what he is doing/feeling. If you constantly believe or act as though he’s going to be a jerk one day or cheat on you, he might just because he’s getting the punishment for the actions that he hasn’t done yet. If he’s the real deal - enjoy it - it doesn’t happen that often to many people.
No one is a mind reader, people can go through years of what appear to be a very loving & committed relationship and then things happen that you cannot control & put stress on the person or relationship, and people make mistakes. But it is all about how you will handle it all. I think if you really feel confident enough to be on your own, without him or any crutch, you will stop looking for his approval or actions towards you. If you have a problem with something he does in the future, let him know then - do not predict he will break your heart. And if he does hurt you or treats you badly, you should have enough love in your heart for yourself and confidence to know to get out or get help. Best of luck.
2007-05-20 23:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by seapharris7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feelings you're talking about. And if they're not brought under control, you can end up becoming suspicious and hurting the one you love and who loves you as well.
Time is the one true healer. Let your suspicions carry a low priority until you have physical proof to justify anything.
I think that after so much pain, your radar is up on high power now and you need to be able to grow to trust someone. Everybody does.
So let your guard down slowly. See where it goes, ok? It's not easy to learn how to trust. But it beats the alternative - living in a house full of cats by the age of 50. :)
2007-05-20 23:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard the phrase"don't look a gift horse in the mouth"? it applies here. enjoy this. he sounds like a wonderful guy. try not to question it. you could screw it up. just relax and go with the flow. your past has made you fearful of your future. don't let it ruin your future. enjoy!
2007-05-20 23:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you trust him? you did marry him. maybe it is finally your turn. soak it in and don't look for something to be wrong.
2007-05-20 23:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by ladyGRNiz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋