what would be the mortar?the building blocks?The roof for a relationship that stands the test of time?
2007-05-20 15:40:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'd say true "appreciation" for one another and for the relationship bond.
Trust, honesty, and respect are definitely necessary ingredients to keeping it going, but they are ingredients that each party must offer. However, it's waking up in the morning and having a strong appreciation for someone (appreciating that person for who they are and for what they add to our life) that motivates us to keep offering those ingredients.
When we start to take that special person for granted (like they are just a "supporting character" in the story of our life and not a "co-star" in our story), we get where we worry less and less about offering things like trust, honesty, and respect. We just start expecting those things from them without "appreciating" the fact that this person is in our life by their own choice and by the grace of Destiny.
Appreciate and be good to one another.
2007-05-23 01:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shaman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The foundation of building a good relationship is honesty, respect and communication. If neither of these exsist than there will always be trouble. A love relationship is like a good friendship. You trust your friend to always be honest with you no matter what. to tell the truth about a situation regardless... This holds true for a good love relationship. He can be as fine as wine, be educated and a beautiful lover, but if you can't trust him, if niether of you can be honest, supportive of each others' goals and dreams and be open enough to talk about whats on your mind...its not going to last long... Acceptance is another foundational block. Both of you must be able to accept the other for who they are and be able to see the potential in each other of what they can and are capable of being. This does not mean trying to change each other, it means being able to see the unique gifts and talents that the other has and being able to nurture those gifts to florishen. Real love is built over time through this process. Being able to laugh with one another is another key to a successful relationship. Having things in common is important too. You don't have to have everything in common, just those things that are important. The differences between you (if healthy) will always have the two of you learning something about each other. Of course being sexually campatible is important as well... Someone who is open to the same things is a good thing. If you are Christian, then it is very important that they are Christian as well. If any religion plays an important role in your life, than it is best that you both value it as well. having the same values is equally important! Never rush, never think that they will change if you only.... whatever! Remember, you are coming together as two whole people (not 1/2 a person looking for their other half). Lead with your heart, but let wisdom control the throttle.
2007-05-20 16:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by lisa d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the base would be trust. It is impossible to go forward without that.
Building up the foundation would be shared values and goals. (for many, this is faith). The mortar for the foundation is communication. Everything must be open for discussion, from finances, to sex, to child rearing.
Eating away at the mortar would be unrealized expectations. No expectations should EVER remain unspoken, no minds left to the psychic readers. (It is amazing how many people think their spouse must be clairvoyant)
The roof has to be unselfish committment. No matter what rains may come (and they WILL come) the house will stand. Nobody even says the "d" word aloud, ever. It is a sealed deal, come hell or high water (or both).
2007-05-20 15:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by greengo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUST. Without trust, there can be nothing else because trust is what tells you that a person is sincere in every other aspect of the relationship. Next, the person has to be your best friend. They have to be the person you can confide in and have fun with beyond that which you can have with all of your other friends.
2007-05-20 15:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is the foundation of good relationship...
if love really exist between two lovers.. even there's come a test of time they can overcome it......
they will sacrifice both, patience one another for the test.....
2007-05-20 16:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jhay_xtriker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty.....to your partner and yourself, Trust, Respect, and the ability to communicate freely.
2007-05-20 15:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by RDFerdinand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty with oneself. And luck.
2007-05-20 16:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I concur with the first answer.
2007-05-20 15:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by surffsav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust and respect.
2007-05-20 15:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋