Control over emotion/being in love?

Question

I've long thought that people have very little or no control over their emotions. ~~>For example, you wake up and realize you're still mad at someone for something they did in a dream.

We usually have limited to significant control over out thoughts. ~~>You realize it was only a dream, and tell yourself not to be upset over it.

And we absolutely can (and should!) control our actions. ~~>You would seem crazy to go confront the person over their actions in your dream.

Agree? Disagree?

Spin off question: Is being "in love" an emotion? Is it an intense state of being, the same as being enraged? Or overjoyed?

Answer 1

Yes, you can. You're capable of using your mind to feel whatever you wish about things or people.

You can take any event from your day; hold it up in your thought, render it completely neutral and then decide how you want to feel about it. Humans ARE feeling beings also -- that will never change.

Rage is 100% controllable, and should be, most of the time. Being overjoyed or in love? The question is: do you WANT to control that, or just let it occur spontaneously? There's a lot to be said for being resilient enough to allow things to happen naturally, too. Just like the weather! If we wake up, and it's a beautiful, sunny day (something we have no control over, just like falling in love) should we block all feelings until we make a decision as to how we should feel, or should we just feel good and roll with that?

Answer 2

Humans like to think we're something special. We even invent gods who we want to believe care about us over all the other forms of life these same gods supposedly created.

The truth is, though, that we are still a primitive and immature species, and many of us are ruled by our emotions, throwing rationality out the window all too easily. We've come up with some clever tools and we have the capability to discover knowledge through the scientific process, but at the same time we're a lot less removed from the other animals than we'd like to think.

While I'm not advocating that we all become Vulcans, still, the sooner that we (both individually and as a species) can get control over our emotions and use rational thought as the rule rather than the exception, the better off and happier we'll all be. How much of the suffering in the world today, from ethnic strife to simple domestic disputes, is rooted in irrational thought!

Answer 3

being in love is not an emotion, as emotion may go to extreme, many a time violent. in love you love somebody means you feel that the person you love should be better in life, to care and share is love! we have two centers in our mind set, one is emotional and another is rational. you should try to seek balance between these two. going an extreme end may leads to miserable life.
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