Ladies...Ur husband was unfaithful before and during your marriage. He had mandantory surgery that unexpectedly left him unable to walk.You do everything for him, including wipe his *** and get him in and out of places and he still treats you like crap,talks to you any kind of way, and is overall ungreatful for the things you do. Plus he has money and still expects you to work a full time job and pay ALL the bills...What would you do?
2007-05-20 14:39:17 · 34 answers · asked by ms.redd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a true story, happening right now in my neighborhood.....
2007-05-20 14:57:53 · update #1
If he's mean, disrespectful,inconsiderate,verbally abusive, doesn't contribute anything to the household or the relationship, what the heck is this person waiting for??? Leave the son of a b-----!!!! What do you need him for?? He doesn't sound like he's worth the time or the trouble and certainly not the money. I wouldn't support some guy that was that big a jerk. She can make it on her own if she's supporting the house anyway.
2007-05-20 15:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you. That is all I know you can do. You knew he was an adulterer before you married him. And I guarantee he treated you like dirt then too. Marriage is not only a contract between you and your husband it is with God. If he cheats again, get a divorce and make sure you have enough evidence to where you can get alimony. In the meantime, I would not be working my butt off to take care of someone who has money to hire someone to help take the burden off you. He may as well get used to it because I have a feeling you already know what needs to be done.
2007-05-20 14:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tina #1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy I would send his butt packing. Or have him put in the mental hospital for a while. How ungreatful for a man to act that way to his devoted wife after all of her help. I don't think I would have put up with the unfaithfullness. Here in Indiana you can get 72 hour order to take them for a mental evaluation. Sounds like he is bipoloar or something. good luck to your friend.
2007-05-20 15:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by cat_tails_77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation years ago. Hubby because very ill and couldn't work or leave the house. He became mean and controlling. After 3 years I divorced him and have been happy every since. (By the way, it wasn't easily financially, I had to work 2 jobs to make ends meet. But it was worth it.)
2007-05-20 14:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do not need to feel the way you are feeling right this moment. You can choose to make your life happy and wonderful and content. You don't need this man. You deserve much, much better. Leaving IS hard and scary - but only for a short time. Staying with him will be hard and scary for the rest of your life. Leave. Make the choice to leave now. You know you don't need this.
You are in my prayers.
2007-05-20 14:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rockenroll 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe in marraige for life,[barring adultery] hire him a male nurse to wipe his butt, work part-time, whats he going to do about it? find good friends, get involved with church, have hobbies. sports, travel when you can, don't let yourself get sick over him. People can divorce due to adultery but I don't think for some reason that bothered you, or you wouldn't be there, but now you hold it against him? Do not commit adultery, that is no solution. Mabey get counseling for him, if you can.
2007-05-20 14:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is a psychologist. We were once chatting about situations we've both seen.
He put this situation very succinctly.
Your married to a bastard so divorce the son of a ***** - life's just too short.
Patrick
2007-05-20 14:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him! Why are you staying in a marriage where your husband doesn't respect you or care about your feelings? You deserve to be happy so get out of the mess you're in and get on with it. Good luck!!
2007-05-20 14:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by catfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out, he is controlling and may become physically abusive. Divorce hime right away and take all proof of you paying bills and of his cheating to an attorney right now.
2007-05-20 14:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would arrange for a care giver service to come in.. since he has the money to afford this..I'd leave a vase of flowers and a good bye note and move out without guilt!
Good luck!
2007-05-20 14:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋