I love my boyfriend so much. He is a good man. Sweet, kind, caring. And by the time I found out he had been in prison, I had already fallen in love with him. I look at it as just something from his past. He is getting his life straightened out, but is having a hard time finding a job. He is trying though.
I really love this man. He has his flaws, but don't we all. He loves me for me.
Is it possible to build a future with someone who has been in prison?
I am not talking about a murderer or molester. Just someone who made a mistake.
2007-05-20 14:24:23 · 25 answers · asked by kitty angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We are all aloud to make mistakes because we are not perfect. If this man is sincerely trying to piece his life back together and attempting to do right, then I see nothing wrong with you building a future with him. People do make mistakes and then pull themselves together. Since he is proving to you that he is trying, give him the benefit of the doubt. You might end up pleasantly surprised. Just be patient though since finding a well paying job will not be easy and people do tend to criticise without knowing all of the details.Best of luck :)
2007-05-20 14:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by debbie_75052 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things can be good, if he is sincere about looking for a job, and his committment to you. It clear you love this man, Love can make things better, as long as it is mutual. It's possible to build a future with someone who has being in prison. As long as he is sincere about his intentions for you. We all make mistakes, we also are to learn from mistakes, If he has, and is sincerely trying to get it together. Give him a chance. As long as he dont take forever to get it done. Often times, it is not easy to get a job, with a criminal record, there are placing, which I am sure they gave to him, that could help him find employment. They will also help him to find employment, if need be. If he is using these avenues, and others available, time will tell, what is really going on with him, whether or not, his love is real. Dont fall to deep in love, where you cant see it, when he is no longer trying to do as he promise. Keep him aware of what is important. It is important he bring in some kind of legal money. A good man, will do that which is needed to make his words real. You are right, we all have flaws, but this guy has to show and prove. I do wonder why, he didnt tell you right away, he had been in prison. In relationship, that worth lasting, has to start out right, if it doesnt, it will end up wrong. Keep this in mind, allow him to show you, by his actions, what he is really about. Time has a way, of bringing things front and center. Love is a beautiful emotion, when it is real. Love is an action, his actions will show you how much he loves you.
2007-05-20 21:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by ladymaryum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you; you sound very young and naive. Take a deep breath. Take a dozen!
If you're younger than 25 or 18, and you probably are, you shouldn't be thinking in terms of 'love' or making a future with ANYBODY! You should be dating lots of guys and gaining in wisdom and experience, something you may be short of.
So this guy is having a hard time getting a job and has flaws. What advice would you give a sister who you love that's in the same position. Wouldn't you ask her if this was the best she could do?
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2007-05-20 21:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself this questions? Could you imagine yourself with this person for the rest of your life? How does he fit into your lifestyle? What does he have to offer you in the future? This gentleman cannot offer you anything as far as a stable future. I would not be able to trust a ex-con. What is so EX about him, you cannot guarantee that he will not turn around and do the same thing again. Do you honestly want to wait a week, month, year to find out? There is not future for him. He will not really have a career because no one will hire an ex-con.
2007-05-20 21:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as an "ex-con", once a con, always a con. Yes, you can have a future with him.....but statistically, it won't be a good one!!! Why not fall in love with someone you can trust? There are plenty of men who would treat you kindly, and care for you......that haven't "made a mistake". It just takes a little patience to find him, but I think it would be worth the wait.
2007-05-20 21:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by RDFerdinand 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this man is making an effort to get his life on track, and is avoiding those factors that got him in trouble the first time around (and I'm assuming it was only once?) then why not give him a go?
But if his crime involved drinking/drugs, gangs, or violence and he goes back to that sort of lifestyle give him the flick. No use borrowing trouble.
Everybody deserves a second chance, but not necessarily a third, fourth, fifth, etc.
Remember whatever happens to take care of you.
2007-05-20 21:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right everyone makes mistakes and wether he's a excon or not what he went in for was he there long enough to find a trade too learn.he can moe yards and do something too try to participate around the house if you are going too try and make don't get caught into the lust because everything that freash for the moment may get rotten girlfriend after awhile
2007-05-20 21:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by ALMETA F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should continue. I have been to prison as well 15 years ago. it took me some time to get ajusted but, I did. I went to school and now i am a grocery store manager. it was hard but if you love him there will be struggles but trust me it will pay off!!!! big time as long as he is makeing a serious effort. if he is not RUN< RUN< RUN>
2007-05-20 21:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Henry M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends...I was in love with a man once who'd served time for a fight that he hospitalized the other guy involved.He had a good reason.The guy raped and beat his kid sister.He's been clean for over 13 years,and took anger management classes.Now he's runs a hotel.So,is it possible?Only time will tell.
2007-05-20 21:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by Babylove 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well It is up to you. You will have to live with that dission. ?
Are you supporting him? Is he willing to Take any Job? If you are supporting him he may found what he wanted. Love will make us blind. How Long has he been out and is he getting any counseling? How long was he in? All this matters in the long journey..
2007-05-20 21:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by GCS57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋