2007-05-20 14:17:20 · 26 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Can you like a person of different qualities than yourself? I can.
Believe me, 'intelligence' is a misused concept. There are so many types of intelligence and no one has a 'lock' on all of them. So you may have a strength over someone in one area and a weakness in another area. The real question is can you like someone despite or because of those differences.
Peace
2007-05-20 14:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by zingis 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The question is about 'liking' not loving. So it is more about feeling compatible, comfortable. Well, it depends on the situation, and what we seek out of such a person. If that person is a subordinate, his greater intelligence might be a threat to us, so some of us might 'like' an idiot with just job-oriented skills. Where as, we may not be in the race with the nature of job the other intelligent person might hold and yet we might feel comfortable to lean upon that person's greater intelligence as a 'mutual benefit scheme' and so might like him !
This question presents more problem among married couples because life situation presents both the need for dependence(compromise) as well as 'superiority clash' problems ! Only true mutual & unconditional love can resolve such problems.
2007-05-20 21:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you regard every human as infinitely precious and valuable, then their intelligence will be but one of the facets that make them uniquely wonderful. I am reminded of the delightful children who attended a daycamp for mentally retarded children I worked when I was in high school. I liked them very much and still smile when I remember one little boy running into a tree trunk hollering "I'm the ten dollar man!" If you are asking about liking in the context of choosing a romantic partner intelligence may take on a greater importance in the relationship if it is very lopsided.
2007-05-20 21:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by teetzijo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether you are referring to someone you might be romantically interested in or just liking someone in general. Either way, you can get along with them, be nice to them, strike up conversations with them, but if you feel their intelligence is "lesser" than yours it will be difficult for you to truly "like" them. Liking someone should come natural and not be a matter of weighing their smarts. After all, we're all smart about somethings, but no one person is smart about everything.
2007-05-20 21:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by perfumeholic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intelligence is nothing compared to a persons heart, the beauty of a person is in the way they treat others...the kindnesses they show. Why judge a person worthy because of the things they know, why limit yourself. The most loving, trusting people I know are those of limited mental capabilities......
2007-05-20 22:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by She Said 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issues is how any of us judge the intelligence of another (we don't walk around with IQ scores pinned to our chest). If you are judging someone's intelligence, you probably aren't liking or enjoying their company.
Intellectuals, by contrast, tend to be boring and intense individuals. Aim for the middle ground.
2007-05-20 21:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my dear, I HOPE so. "Intelligence" is such a subjective term. Do you mean someone who hadn't read the same books as you have, or merely someone who doesn't take tests as well? Does "intelligence" only refer to someone who follows the rules and colors inside the lines?
Extremely creative people often score lower on standard intelligence tests, because they're bored to death with them! Is "creativity" more valuable or desirable than "intelligence"? Albert Einstein was considered to be mildly retarded by his teachers.
2007-05-20 21:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Solstice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you CAN like one, coz to like depend on your internal mechanism and not really depend from any "external" stimulus as a person or anything else.
I mean... who choose how intelligence is defined? Who choose what is the relationship between "intelligence" and "to like"? The same "person" may choose to like or not.
2007-05-20 21:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by last_alien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. My focus in liking a person has more to do with emotional intelligence than I.Q. intelligence.
2007-05-20 21:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. Why wouldn't you like someone based on that? Some of the biggest arseholes I've ever met are very intelligent..
2007-05-20 21:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Renesme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋