We've got 4 kids. The oldest is 12. The other 3 are 5 (they are triplets) and she's been evily poisoning their thinking about me. (I'm dumbfounded and shocked at things the little ones say that reveal things she's told them) I'm going to be fighting for sole-custody of the kids (this divorce stuff is all quite new and unfamiliar to me at this point), because of her horrendous mothering and addiction to pain pills and anti-psych meds. Things are becoming increasingly tense and verbally hostle as we attempt to co-exsist in the same house. Any thoughts anyone? Any encouragment is highly appreciated.
2007-05-20 14:05:24 · 15 answers · asked by Hubert Nerd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I encourage you to see an attorney.
2007-05-20 14:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some states have a requirement that the couple live separate and apart for a certain amount of time before the divorce petition is filed. How rigorously the courts enforce that, and how they interpret living "separate and apart" varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. On a more practical level, you may not be able to move because you can't afford two residences right now. Or, you may not feel comfortable leaving the kids unattended with your wife. It's extremely difficult to live in the same house with a spouse against whom you've filed a divorce action. It'll be difficult to have a civil relationship. I'd encourage you to leave as soon as you can, and, of course, to see an attorney as soon as possible.
2007-05-20 14:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some states have a call for that the couple stay separate and aside for a undeniable volume of time till now the divorce petition is filed. How carefully the courts enforce that, and how they interpret residing "separate and aside" varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. On a greater effective point, you won't have the capacity to go in view which you could't have the money for 2 residences genuine now. Or, you won't experience mushy leaving the little ones unattended which includes your spouse. it is totally complicated to stay interior a similar residing house with an more desirable half against whom you have filed a divorce action. it is going to be complicated to have a civil relationship. i might motivate you to leave as quickly as you could, and, of path, to determine an lawyer as quickly as conceivable.
2016-11-25 20:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, man!! Is that MY wife you have living with you!!!
I feel for you. I have been there, and I am still trying to work things out with my wife. I left her because of her prescription drug use, and she tried to commit suicide a week later. I put her in an institution for a few days...they diagnosed her as being bi-polar! It has been very very hard for me. It will get worse, before it can get better.
I hate to be cruel, but you need evidence that she has a drug dependency. Get a free consultation from a lawyer, and tell them the situation. Your wife is NOT in a healthy state of mind!!!!
Stop the fighting with her...DO NOT argue, just be the whipping boy until you can get her help!!! She needs to be committed, and she will refuse to let you do that without her consent!!! I am living the hell now...if you read my other questions, U will see that my wife went off the deep end, and it has strained our marriage to the point of questionable return. My wife was in a car accident three years ago, and she has never been the same since. She was also a victim of incest from her own dad. But the pain pill addiction was only part of the problem, but the one we dealt with first!!!
2007-05-20 14:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by not for now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving out can be taken as abandonment in some states... while you are in the house get your finances in order and try to get a copy of doctor report. Keep a journal at work with times, medications, and behaviors she does or poor parenting skills. Look up Father's rights as suggested and educate yourself as to what parent alienation syndrome isPAS and what your state laws are. You be the one who presents a parenting plan to the court and read up on how to do that. Courts are not about what seems fair. If you are prepared and one step ahead of her, you will be better off. Spend time with the kids without mother. Talk to the older ones. Tell them how you feel and assure them this is not their fault and no matter what you will always love them. Move out of the bedroom and her space. Keep your temper and read read read plan plan plan!! A woman with her problems spells bad news and her unpredictability can hurt you. Good luck
2007-05-20 15:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she filing for a divorce and not you?. You portray yourself as the victim but she is taking action against you. I find this quite "interesting". I guess speaking to her is not an option as divorce has to be the last resort. See a lawyer if you are actually being abused or feel harassed. Move out temporarily. The children seem comfortable with their mother, so their welfare is not an issue.
2007-05-20 14:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Old Timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKAY LISTEN UP..... I know where your coming from It's not easy with what question, because you need to look at the circumstances, if you leave you'll worry about your kids,RIGHT? My advise is if you can, avoid her, Don't make a big deal with the kids when they say what she's said, just correct their thoughts, but DON'T say anything bad about her. In the meantime get as much information as you can to back you in court, because NO court is going to take away children from their mother unless they are in danger, or she is unfit, BUT you have to prove this, So get as much information as you can.Good Luck I know you'll need it, and Don't feel bad, your not the only one in these circumstances.
2007-05-20 14:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by patsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sisterinlaw was married to a man for a long time they had three kids and she filed for divorce after many years. they drove to the courthouse together got the divorce drove home together and still live together.
however--in your case i would think calmly where i could go WITH the children until the divorce is over. she can't get you for kidnapping and it sounds like you and the children would be better off without her.
2007-05-20 15:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too, was still living with my hubby even after we both knew I was filing for divorce for our daugter's sake. After 3 months of fighting, emotions flying & snotty jabs between us, I decided to leave with our daughter. It isn't fair for the children to have to deal with that kind of stress! Do them a favor, LEAVE!!!
2007-05-20 14:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek the advice of an attorney. You could very well have her thrown out of the home.
2007-05-20 14:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋