Adopted my granddaughter (she is now 5) and my daughter and I have had a difference of opinion and I do not think she should see her biological daughter anymore. She had to make a choice to clean her act up or not be a part of her daughter's life anymore. My daughter (22 yrs old) is a stripper (for past 3 yrs), lives with an ex-con (prison 10yrs for drugs and theft), and both use drugs. I have had enough of her foul and smart mouth. When she is around her daughter and me, after about an hour she starts to yell at her daughter and lets her do what she wants to. I hate for my granddaughter not having her mother around, but I cannot put up with my daughter's drastic mood swings and she and I usually end up fighting and arguing.
2007-05-20 13:44:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think it's always best for a child to know his or her own biological parents....UNLESS there is abuse indicated. reality is, there are ppl that can manage a drug and alcohol problem and still see their children and maintain for X amount of time. there are others that cannot do it at all. if time spent with the childs mother is distressing to the child herself, or if it puts her in jeopardy, i would say to put a kabbash on the visits. on the other hand, if the child would be further hurt and negatively affected by the lack of contact with the biological parent, that is a decision you would have to weigh carefully.
i would suggest talking to a child psychologist, counselor, or clergy member. i wouldn't suggest trying to make the decision, either way, very lightly.
2007-05-20 13:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by sarahjonas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have full legal rights to this child, it is up to you to make the decisions and to protect her. The scars from being yelled at and not properly supervised can last a lifetime.
But so will the scars of not having a mother. You granddaughter knows you are her grandmother and not her mother, and so she will want to know her mom too.
My advice: Greatly limit/minimize your daughter's access to her daughter. No more than 30 minutes at a time....and do not let your granddaughter in the room until you have confirmed that you daughter is not "high" when visiting. All visits should be strictly supervised by you--at the first sign of problem, your daughter should be escorted quickly to the door and told that she cannot see her daughter again until she learns and abides by the rules.
Good luck. Your grand daughter is lucky to have you.
2007-05-20 13:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's your daughter now, I would do everything I could to protect her physical and mentally. Children need a stable environment. I wouldn't feel guilty about doing the right thing.
2007-05-20 13:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Douglas G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a protective order and follow through with it. You are that childs life now and you need to do what is best for her, not your daughter the LOSER.
2007-05-20 17:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by ronald g 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what is best for your granddaughter, do not let your daughter see her until she cleans up. Your granddaughter is to precious, to let a looser screw her up (even if it is her mother).
2007-05-20 14:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by hotmomma4 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, it does'nt sound like your daughter is responsible enough to have a kid, she sounds like she's not ready...... i dont think a child needs t o be around that kind of lifestyle. i wish you and ur family the best my thoughts and prayers are with ur family...
2007-05-20 13:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by itsmekarina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont let her come around
2007-05-20 13:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋