Have you ever tried to "find your self"?

Question

Did you feel like you didn't really feel valid without approval from someone else? And, have you found a way to accept your self without needing others? What lead you to realize who you are, and that you had intrinsic self-worth?

Answer 1

Ya ,and once i found myself,i ran away.

Answer 2

Getting on disability after hitting rock bottom.It's a long crawl back up the barrel.I didn't know I had repressed memories and alternate personalities.I'm also an abductee. Or just delusional like everyone else says.Whatever.They can't stop me from thinking about it.I really hate pompous doctors. The medications sometimes only make me crazier. I find myself wanting to live alone without so much incidence or expectations.It's me time for awhile now damn it. I feel like I had a death sentence that was commuted or put on hold for a few more years. I still have questions about my "real" self worth other than my own humanity.Just another boy who knew too much and than forgot. Luckily, I had help to get on disability.Many people have to fight for it. I guess I had some friends afterall?

Answer 3

Hmmm I've never really tried to find myself.

My partner and I were talking, I was talking about wanting to return to Portugal, where I had my childhood. He said "I understand, you want to find yourself." And I told him "No, I know exactly who I am, I don't need to find myself, this is merely returning home." So this made me think that this is a white people's concept, the idea of finding your self worth elsewhere.

The problem isn't that of white people, it's of the culture that has been formed in North America, I think it's not making people complete enough. People aren't fulfilled in their culture, because it's not very deep, it seems too big, too commercial, like you don't matter. If you go elsewhere you can find that you do matter. At least that's my guess.

But you already know yourself. If you are seeking validity it likely means that someone has put you down in some way, even a small way, and you feel a need to compensate, to prove them wrong. This isn't bad, but it's not something you have to go away for.

Answer 4

Yes Our true self is beyond this material mind and body IE; race, color, nationality, religion, job, intellect, etc. We are eternal spirit souls, parcel of the Supreme Soul, Also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc.) The thing is according to the great Saints and Spiritual Masters one can not really know who they are in actuality by their own whims. Why? because we are covered by veils of illusion(Maya) (Gods material energy)and no one can remove those veils but God. The quickest and easies process to please the Supreme is to chant the Maha Mantra (the great mantra for deliverance from all suffering and illusion) Also Reading the Bhagavad Gita As it is BY BHaktivedanat Prabhupada - WHO is a bonafide Spiritual Master will give you the step by step process how to realize oneself. It is kind of like if someone had to do a surgical operation and they had no training. That would be a shot in the dark. So One should have the proper training and then have one who knows check to make sure you did it correctly.

Answer 5

Yes. Yes.

Realizing the only person who I could control is myself and the opinions of others are no more valid than my own opinion. What lead to this realization, choosing to live another day over worrying about the next.

Answer 6

I think that I learned that I had intrinsic self worth from the love of my parents, the joy I could give others, and the other things I had to offer to others. For this very reason, I try to show my appreciation to others for what they do for me, because I can contribute to their feelings of self worth, and I can use the help no matter what I think of myself!

Answer 7

I use to think that I knew all their was to know about myself. but then after experiencing some traumatic things in my life. I searched for meaning to life. to self, and to why.. I walked the desert for two years in a row. (not constantly) and picked up rocks, and I talked to the air, or to what ever spirit would listen, as I was not believing in God much at that time either., and you know, I realized things about myself I didnt even know, I found I could write poetry in a very unique and spiritual kind of way, I learned tolisten, I learned to become aware of the world around me. I found things inmyself that I loved, and I found a whole new life for me. and if it were not for doing that. I would of not had the strength to overcome the things that happened after that. I would of been sent to a loony bin, Ihave no doubt it it were not for finding the truth in my own spirit. I wrote a poem called the Face ofReality. and it turned out that the poem was talking to me, in a cool kind of way.. I faced Reality and I faced myself, and I was soon able to look in the mirror and loved who was looking back.. now if I could only find a mate that sees those same unique qualities, then I would have it made.