...but I find that people don't easily let their hair down around me because I don't drink. Is it because I'm not getting "ill" or drunk with them, they don't find me cool? i.e. "I know how you feel cause I'm drunk too, YAY!!!" Or is it they simply don't trust a guy who doesn't drink? I understand when it's "Miller Time" it's "Miller Time". But I just don't see it that way anymore. I understand there are many rewarding things you can do as you drink, it shouldn't be about I'm drunk, you're drunk, we're drunk, and so on.
2007-05-20 13:02:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I stopped drinking several years ago, but for the most part I don't like to be around ex drinkers. Non drinkers are fine.. but the ex drinkers seem to be fixated on drinking. Even if they don't do it. (I can't see how someone makes the rest of their life all about 'recovery' .. seems like they never recover if it's all they talk about )
I have no problem being with drinkers or non drinkers, but I know people who are drinking can feel uncomfortable around non drinkers. I've heard all sorts of reasons, but the one that makes the msot sense to me is that drinking puts you at a mental disadvantage, but when drinking in a group, the disadvantage is assumed to be pretty much equal.
Add a non-drinker to the mix, and suddenly someone has an edge.
2007-05-20 13:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Chuck S 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean - I was incredibly stupid around alcohol, so I decided one day to just stop drinking. Suddenly my friends stopped asking me to come out with them if they were going drinking, because they figured I wouldn't want to go if I was going to be sober, or that I would feel awkward and pressured. Slowly they started to understand that I still like being around them, because I am actually capable of having fun without drinking (shock horror)!! They still dont invite me out as much as they used to, but it's a bit better now that they have gotten used to it. My guess is people just dont really think that you will want to be around crazy drunks if you are not drinking or are a recovering alcoholic - or they are embarassed because they know that you're not drunk and stupid with them and are going to remember everything the next day!
2016-05-22 10:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in "Miller Time" world!! Seriously, I do!! Beer capital!!! Wow, there are a lot of drunk people here!! Bars on every corner, practically!!
I'm not one of them (a drunk)! Not anymore!! I'm clean and sober, but I struggle with it at times. Sometimes it's hard to say "no!"
Yes, I think it bothers people when you don't have a drink with them, but they'll get over it!! Sometimes I order a drink that looks like a drink but has no alcohol...I wonder if that makes them feel better? Hmmmm....
2007-05-20 13:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Missy (aka: La Tigres) 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess my questons for you would be do you drink non alchoholic beverages? Or, do you not party at all anymore? If you do not party at all, Do you still hang out with the same people? Maybe you just need to find a new group of friends. Friends that have your same interests, beliefs, morals, ect.
2007-05-20 13:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Karleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of ex-drinkers who do get weird about other people drinking, either by judging it or by saying they can't be around drinking because it will tempt them, so maybe people have that experience with others and make the same unfortunate assumption about you.
2007-05-20 13:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you mind when others are drinking around you? I know sometimes you're suppose to avoid that which is tempting. But anyway why not just kick back & watch those drunken people make fools out of themselves? I can be quite hilarious!
2007-05-20 13:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Nick Name 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congrats. If people around you won't be themselves because you don't drink, then maybe it's time to find new friends. It is a huge accomplishment to quit drinking, so congrats.
2007-05-20 13:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a beer drinker from way back, but I gotta give it to you, and anyone else, who is movin on with their lives. Good for you, my friend. I don't look at things that way myself, I have a lot of friends who don't drink.
2007-05-20 13:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by chris j 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am proud of you for being one of the few people who will stand by what's right for them despite pressure from others. Don't quit that, it's a lovely and rare quality.
2007-05-20 13:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Misery likes company. Drinkers like to be surrounded by others that drink. Otherwise they don't feel they are on the same playing field.
2007-05-20 13:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋