What is really going on in a woman's head when?

Question

she avoids talking about her sexual past?

Men, with all due respect----you haven't a clue.

Answer 1

Whoever wrote that men don't have a clue was right on the mark.

Men and women think and feel very differently. I am fortunate enough to be married to a woman who lets me see inside her, how she thinks, how she feels, the things that give her joy, and the things that bother her.

First, her past is no one's business but her own. If she wishes to share that information, it is up to her.

If it is a guy asking the question, well, I'm a guy - I understand needing to ask. I also understand all the masculine fears that go along with that. We can be a pretty insecure bunch.

Saddest of all, men have this egotistical, testosterone related thing about "having to be the best." If my wife were answering, she would say, "If there is love and respect between us, then WE'RE the best" and anybody else doesn't matter.

What does it mean? It can mean a whole multitude of things. If you want to find out what it means, ask. Here is what you'll probably hear from her, "I don't like discussing other men with you because I'm afraid it will make you uncomfortable or get us into an argument."

Yes, women can be very emotional - in profound and beautiful ways. They are also incredibly logical once they let you in on how they perceive their world and the people in it.

Hope that helps.

Patrick

Answer 2

Alot of times it's because they want to start over. Alot of girls are ashamed of some of the things they have done and if they find someone they like they just want to leave the past behind them. If you really think about it.. if you like the girl... it shouldn't matter. It will just make you think too much. Most people change and maybe what she use to do is not something she would do now and she just wants to forget about it. Me and my husband have no clue about each others past and we like it that way. We don't focus on what happened before we met each other, instead we focus on what we have together. It's not a bad thing. Don't assume it's anything bad either. She may just not want to deal with any possible jealousy from you. Don't sweat it though. It's in the past. Nothing you could do about it anyway... ya know? Good luck though.

Answer 3

Man, if you only knew what some of us women be thinking. She probably avoids talking about her sexual past, because she either feels that you should not know and it should not matter therefore she is with you and you're the one she wants to be with. Maybe in the near future she would open up about her sexual past. Probably at this moment in time if she told you she might feel embarrassed and you might see her in a different light. Establish Honesty

Answer 4

It depends on who she's talking to. She may be thinking, "And what in the world does my sex life has to do with you, and why is it any business of yours?"

Or: "I don't want to break his heart; I'll just play dumb."

This is especially true if a woman senses, if a man is asking the question, he's insecure about how he measures up to past lovers or seems overwhelmed by the woman's confidence and sexuality.

Answer 5

She might value her privacy. If shes done something she is sorry she did, she may not wish to share, especially if its years later.
In the olden days, we didn't discuss our past, being private was perfectly respectable and we didn't think we needed to post our encounters on the front page of the Enquirer.
It would be nice to go back to that, the sole exception being a test for stds.

Answer 6

I'm a very open person, meaning I love to talk about everything. I am also (finally) in a comfortable relationship, of four years, where we do share things. In past relationships, I was never comfortable enough to share anything about past relationships because I was afraid of how my partner would react. Now that I am more comfortable I feel free to share everything and have. I like to share my past mistakes to try and remind my partner of how wonderfully different he is; however, I do note that he does not like to hear about my other relationships and this can often affect how much I am at liberty to say.

Answer 7

It's either you had too little sexual partners and she had a ton which is why she is embarrassed to reveal that and you might think she gets around a lot. OR, you have a lot of sexual partners and she possibly had only 1 or 2, so she thinks she is not experienced enough for you.

Believe me, I know, I am a girl and I do hesitate about this

Answer 8

Discussing your sexual past with your current love interest is a bad idea. Do you really want to know??? Would you tell all? Somethings are private - She doesn't kiss and tell.

Answer 9

it depends on what that past contains. she may have some hurtful experiences....dont push her to share or she wont. she's afraid or ashamed or maybe she just doesnt think its any of ur business. sometimes we tend to make too much out of a persons past. maybe she doesnt want to harm ur relationship in that way. if it really bothers u...try sharing first and if she reciprocates....problem solved. if not, let her know whats bothering u and why. speak honestly and dont scorn her for not sharing immediately. maybe she just wants to know u will listen and not judge or maybe just be there for her. also, before u ask, make sure u really want to know. prepare urself for any and everything. it may be a shock if/when she does share.

Answer 10

She either has nothing to tell, or she is sparing you boring details of her sexual past. No more, no less. History is history, a thing of the past, so let it be! You are the here and now, revel in it!