Ugh, life is too complicated?

Question

Im gay and 14 and going through a hard time. Know one knows im gay. Im afraid to tell my friends because im afraid of rejection. Im afraid my parents will be mad at me. Ugh... life is complicated right now and it would be nice to talk to another gay guy... id prefer someone younger than 25 so i can relate to them >.>

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Answer 1

If you feel that you need to come out then you should just come out for your sake. There's always that fear that you might be rejected by the people you tell but in telling people you might discover that they too might be gay or bisexual. Why don't you just take the time to talk to other gay people online but know that everybody coming out experience differs depending on the people who they tell. In my case everybody accepted me and couldn't believe it took me so long to come out at 23. I remember people suspecting that i was gay at 12 years, i was scared of being rejected too. The people who were close to me didn't realized that everytime they ridiculed another gay person in my presents they were talking about me, it hurted my self-esteem. Also, You may even be surprised that people suspect that you're gay already. They just don't usually say anything to you.

Answer 2

What I would do if I were you would be to confide in 1 or 2 trusted friends. But before you do, make sure that they can keep big secrets and that they aren't homophobes. That's what I did- I'm 14 too and bisexual. The friend that I told handled it very well, but I told her not to tell anyone that wouldn't understand.

As for your parents- if you don't think they will understand, then they don't need to know. My parents don't know yet- and I plan to keep it that way for as long as possible or at least until I'm out of the house.

And to answer your initial question~ feel free to email to me if you want if you need someone to relate to~ [e-mail]

Answer 3

Just chillax bud. You don't need to do anything at 14, except stay healthy and sane and set yourself up for a good adulthood.
I know this is easier said than done but my advice: put your sexuality on the back burner for a few more years, and focus on doing well in school, staying fit, and helping other people. Someday you will go away to college, and then you will be around good supportive people!
For now, just be weary of old perverts and jeebus freaks.

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear that. I'm not gay and I'm much older. I have gay friends who have lived their lives painfully because they can't be honest about their sexuality with their family and some of their closest friends so I know what you mean. I hope you'll find the courage to come out to your parents one day. They might be shocked at first but I'm sure they will love you just the same. Please try to arrange a meeting with a counsellor to talk about your feelings. I don't think you could go on feeling so miserable.

Answer 5

I can so relate. Comming out is the hardest thing I ever had to do. But it was indirect. My parents stumbled on the info. Dealing with the pain and confusion is really tough. But you got to hold on and hope for the best. It's your life and your family and friends should respect your decisions. Just tell who ever it is you want when you think the time is right. Don't feel pressured about it, just relax.

Answer 6

life can be complicated-so be sure what you believe and act on-this is what helped me alot-will be praying for you too soccer guy= Romans 1 Some are unthankful to God and worship the created instead of the creator and are turned over to a reprobate mind to do what is unseamly.
Ist Corinthians gives the answer to blind people too-"And such WERE some of you, but you have been cleansed by the blood of Jesus.

"For by grace are you saved through faith, it is the gift of God not of works lest anyone should boast." Ephesians 2:8&9

JESUS IS RIGHT!

WE HAVE to bring salvation by Jesus the Lord our Tzedak =The Lord is our righteousness
Isaiah 53 explains how the Lord becomes our righteousness

at the destruction of the temple Jesus had already given the sacrifice of blood for sin
Moses explained "The life of the flesh is in the blood and I have given it upon the altar to make atonement for your souls." Leviticus 17:11
believe Moses and the promised Messiah
atonement
it is helping people of their faith and can also be used though rarely to help people that personally know the religious people's Messiah Jesus.

because they love the Messiah Jesus and all others.

Isaiah 9:6 "Unto us a child is born a son is given, and he will be almighty GOD, and the Prince of Peace."

Isaiah 52:13-53:12 states "He shall lay down his life to make atonement for our sins."

thus we get to chose our life style with power to live right from a Messiah that will save us and be our best friend, and helping others, or helping others to be our own savior thinking we are earning our way to heaven.

praying for you and best wishes too Shalom peace-David

Answer 7

i understand im 14 to and comfused to to talk [e-mail]

Answer 8

Come to jesus He wants to help you. He can restore your soul and make you stay like He created you. He wants a wife for you not a guy like you, that's abomination.
Jesus loves you!