thanks for all the replys, yes we have got children 8 and 5. ive kept his door keys so he has no way of getting in and i have the car keys. i also have a part time job and go to college and no i didnt see this coming he gave me no clue!
2007-05-20 12:24:15 · 21 answers · asked by ms j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are Always the last to know as wives
you can do better
i have been where You are, and i am doing WAAAAY better without him!
2007-05-20 12:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do sympathise been there and worn the tshirt !! It will get better in the end. You have got the children to keep you going and no matter how hard it is for you please try and think of them and their happiness at the moment you wont want him anywhere near them I expect but unless there has been violence he is their dad and you have to been very dignified and strong.
You will want to kick scream and shout go do it if it makes you feel better!! Oh and legally you cant keep him out of the house or the car particularly if house is in joint names but here is my favourite for you. You can change the locks if you loose your keys and if you dont know where he is you cant tell him can you !! Its not your fault you lost them somewhere and just dont know where they went will cost you to change the locks but you will have peace of mind that he wont come and clear out the house while you are out . My ex tried that and couldnt get in !! That little idea came from a very good divorce lawyer who was nothing to do with my case.
Good luck it really does get better and you will find you are a lot better off, get your college qualifications and go show the world what a success you are.
2007-05-20 19:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ther...
Listen to Arthur...He knows what he's talking about.
I hope you keep your chin up, honey. Some days will be tougher than others, but remember you did nothing wrong- he did.
Look for counseling or therapy if you feel like you might start to get very sad or depressed....Hope you feel better soon and that in the future, when you look back on this, you will feel stronger and more confident. You sound like a great woman so take care of yourself and your kids.
Karma will get him, don't worry. Focus on yourself now.
Good luck!
2007-05-20 20:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that is just like a man spring it on you all of a sudden, mine did the same thing. Will you be able to keep your job and still go to college, I really hope so. It seems you are a really level headed person and you deserve a reward for getting all this done to keep him from coming back in and trying to talk you out of letting him go. Don't take him back not after what he has done just keep being the person you are, because you are winner , you won not him.
2007-05-20 19:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whew! well again i am sorry you are going through this. it royally sucks when the one person we thought we could love and trust forever does something that makes us feel as though we are breaking into a thousand pieces. I do seriously hope that at least you seek counseling. That way you can work through this and be a stronger, healthier person for it. And for someone who knows your pain, stick that booger for everything he has and then maybe little miss 26 yr old **** will wise up and see he aint got nothing left to give her unless he goes on viagra. hehe. Go get him sister!
2007-05-20 19:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been there done that except im 26, but yeah my 32 year old husband came home last may and gave me two days to move out, he had found some1 else, now im picking up the pieces. good luck and good for you being in college. keep your head up
2007-05-20 20:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the sexes & this story is mine also. My wife of 18 years slept w' my now former best friend. I was never abusive (physically or mentally) or unfaithful. I worked 60 hrs a week, always provided, shared all housework. Denied myself things so she could have. I never seen it coming either.
It wasn't our sex life. He was in the middle of a divorce himself,(wife caught him cheating) He was a player, she fell for him, he dumped her. We are currently seperated. Moral is, you are not alone. FOLLOW YOUR HEAD not your heart. Don't act on spite. We have a15 yr old daughter.
It'll work out if you want. Now you are in control.
2007-05-20 20:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Stan7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men could be so mean, they do not have the same emotions as us gals. there always looking for something younger. you are doing all the things the right way. your taking care, when he leaves you can make it on your own. he sounds like a terrible person. good luck hon. smart girl
2007-05-20 19:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by smart girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess that they'll be real happy together until either 1) she gets tired of being with an old goat, or 2) he realizes what he lost, especially when YOU go on with life and forget him, and he wishes he could be back with you. When people cheat, they are rarely happy with the one they cheated with. It usually ends badly.
2007-05-20 19:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kyle 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear about that, I truly am. For what its worh, I think your doing great! You have a long road ahead, but keep your chin up and stay in school. Good Luck!
2007-05-20 19:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by drew 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this has happened to you ,I had the same done to me but worse if you wanna talk I'll listen otherwise I wish you the very best of luck :)
2007-05-20 19:31:46 · answer #11 · answered by Zenlife07 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋