about 2 months ago i cheated on my husband .. he found out and he still wants to be with me ....and wants me home i feel guilty i know i shouldnt have done what i did and feel very bad !
he has talked bout 3 somes before and i had an idea i figured i should tell him to sleeo with someone i have a good friend who would be willing to sleep with him ... that way the score is even ive had someone esle and he has too ... i think this is a good idea i dont know if he will go for it but i know she will ive sorta asked her if she would ... im not sure what to do i know this will make me feel better but i dont know what it will do for him ,,,, should i try to even the score ????
2007-05-20 11:55:50 · 21 answers · asked by Sweetness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO NO NO... Just be faithful from now on... you are looking for serious trouble if you bring in some more bad issues into your marriage... The best thing you can do is be faithful and please your husband... not another man or woman... Good Luck
2007-05-20 12:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not open that pandora's box. You said you feel very bad about what happen, then prove it, be the best wife to him that you can be.
Before you can get your marriage back on track, you need to ask for his forgiveness, talk about what went wrong in the marriage and try and fix it.
But first and formost, you need to have a few test done. The first being a pregnancy test, and the others are an HIV/AIDS and other STD'S. I hope all of them come back negative.
As for the other part of your question, any "friend" that would sleep with your husband is not a true friend trust me. Those are the kinds of freinds that you have to keep your eyes on constantly. I don't think he would take you up on that offer, but if I were you, I would not even put it on the table to begin with. Good luck, if you need o talk to someone, I am here for you!
2007-05-20 12:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Male aged 50,first of all he is very lucky for you to want to do a threesome but be careful as all is not fair in love and war and it would not be the first that a friend has gone off with a husband or wife,so unless you have a very Strong relationship which it does not seem you have i am not sure it is a good idea,on the other hand it may and i say may make your relationship stronger.As for making things even don't worry about as the guilt that you feel is even enough,maybe best to just work at what you have and not complicate things more than you need too
2007-05-20 12:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by andrew h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to make things worse yeah sure go ahead. Hello, you are married and him talking about a 3 some is fantasy but if it became a reality it can ruin your marriage so much worse. What you need to be doing is trying to fix your marriage, not muck it up more. You should be talking to him about how you feel, what is on your mind and his feelings too.
You both should get some counseling. Marriage isn't about sleeping with other people and having no respect for each other. Turning to someone else when you're hurting or upset while married is not the answer and trying to get your self out of trouble being having him sleep with your friend isn't either. Grow up and try to be an unselfish adult.
2007-05-20 12:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, marriage is never to be about "evening the score" when something goes wrong. It's to be about forgiveness and love. Second, marriage is to be about the two of you, not about you plus someone else. And third, you have a "good friend" who is willing to sleep with him? Hmmm..... not too good of a friend in my book. Whatcha wanna bet she won't be too good of a friend for long? You'll be wondering if they are sleeping together on the sly and your marriage will be in even worse trouble. Be glad your husband has forgiven you, love him for the wonderful man he is, put it behind you, and live happily ever after, don't ever cheat on him again. Oh, and grow up. No offense hon, but you need to find out what real love and marriage is. You might try a couple sessions with a marriage counselor if nothing else.
2007-05-24 10:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt suggest it.. the whole point of being with your hubby is to have that intimate time shared between the 2 of you. And if you want to get past your cheating, your best off just to show your hubby love yourself.... if someone else does its only artifical.. that would only be mistake #2.... great for fantasy but dont make it reality... all men prob like to have 1 woman but not good idea... do something romantic yourselfs.. worse comes worse just watch a porn movie together lol
thanks hope ive helped
2007-05-20 12:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by RAIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it die immediately. If he is willing to work things out and stay together then leave well enough alone. Two wrongs here wont ever make your mistake right or make things even. Drop the idea and try to come to terms yourself with yourself about your mistake and work on rebuilding his trust and moving on with your marriage. Just dont test him again and expect him to be so understanding as guys like this usually are impossible to find. So be thankful for him and simply move on to better times and let your mistake die and bury it. Good luck
2007-05-20 12:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you introduce more problems into your already damaged marriage? You made a mistake, your husband says he forgives you now it is time you forgave yourself. If he loves you and want to work things out, take it for what it is worth. Quit beating yourself up over it. Inviting others into your bed is only going to complicate the situation more. If you want to add more excitement into your marriage role play, you be the other woman. Try different things, but first talk to him and let him know how you feel. It will all work out.
2007-05-20 12:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tina #1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him sleep with your friend at least 3 times. (You can't make the score even with just one time) You were the breaker of trust so you have to add some interest payments. He will see that it's not that big of a deal. Then, after he sleeps with her the third time... introduce the idea of swinging... You both get to stay together and have a little wild fun at the same time.
2007-05-20 12:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋