2007-05-20 11:50:01 · 25 answers · asked by nunes_judy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Some churches seem to have a cult-like atmosphere. I grew up in a fundamentalist Baptist church. They were very strict and extreme in their views, and they "encouraged" members to only socialize with other people of the church. I went to their school, was friends only with kids that went to that church, etc. Without knowing anything about your specific situation, perhaps this could be a reason for his actions.
2007-05-20 11:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of christians are only allowed to associate with other christians. This is to stop non-christians saying something like "If we all came from Adam and Eve, how come Adam and Eve only had two children and they were both males" and that might make the christian question the belifs. It's not ur sons fault, not at all, it's the brainwashing cult. Any kind of cult that doesn't want u to associate with non-members of the cult is not 100% legit. Whereas if you go to him and meet him in this church, that's okay because another thing about cults is that they seem to always want to recruit and expand. Let ur son know that u will always, always be there for him. If he leaves the cult or not, he will always have you.
2007-05-21 03:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by My Dose Makes Angels 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most likely, because it's a very big part of his life and he wants to share it with you -- particularly if he is a new convert. You don't have to believe what he believes, but would it do any harm to go with him once in a while? Perhaps if you do, he may be more open to doing other things with you that aren't directly related to the church.
2007-05-21 03:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Clare † 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if your son has gotten mixed up in a cult sect of one of this lunatic Fundie churches...Sorry you are in this spot, that is a nasty place to be. We can only hope that he sees the light of day BEFORE he commits all his money, time, energy, and life into this bullcrap. IF he doesn't come around, I would certainly change my will immediately, for anything you might leave him will end up in this church's hands, trust me on that one!
2007-05-21 11:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing he will listen from you is religion and future career. I think he's going through a phase where he needs independence and experiment. All you can do now is preach about safety precautions and give him short 2min lectures. It'll be in the back of his head when he meets the situation. I suggest you don't be too protective and try to set fair boundaries.
2007-05-20 11:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cheat Sum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Christian churches will try any kind of pressure they can find to swell their rolls and their income. If there are grandchildren involved, and, you haven't heard it already, your grandchildren are taught to "share the good news" and ask you why you aren't in church with them in their sunday school classes.
It doesn't matter to these kind of churches if your life is comfortable and you are happy, because they won't believe you can be comfortable and happy if you are not in their church.
You are going to make some hard choices....Good luck
2007-05-20 14:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Terry 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he's involved in church that's ok but what does that have to do with him spending time with you? Sounds cultish to me so beware until you know more what is going on. No religion, if it's a good, loving one, will require people to give up their family because they don't worship with them. That is sick and man-made and dangerous.
2007-05-24 06:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's misguided. Christianity should bring you closer to those you love. It shouldn't create barriers, even if your beliefs are somewhat different.
I left my family church, but my mother has come to visit my current church twice. (Parents are Catholic - I'm now Christian Non-denominational) It can work!
2007-05-24 07:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Apple21 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is what makes him happy - he wants to share that with you. It sounds like you would like to interact with him outside the church - be direct. Tell him this. Maybe it could be more reciprocal if he knew you wanted other types of activities.
2007-05-23 09:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by rooseveltq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him you are comfortable in your own religion.
My brother has changed churches and even religions, though all Christan, a lot in his life and has tried to get me to change.
I told him I like my church, it was where I was raised and I like the people and they are my friends and I am not going to change now.
What is important is that you truly believe in what you want and it is not a false front.
2007-05-20 13:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋