This is my problem this been 2 months already after i gave birth to my baby my husband just want to spend his time working when he has the day off he want to work over time for me it like he don't want to spend time with me and my baby sometime i think that he don't love me anymore i don't know what to think? What do u think?
2007-05-20 11:49:22 · 15 answers · asked by joemari19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Providing for a family is a huge responsibility. I believe he's trying to be prepared for emergencies and the unknown that comes along with having a baby.
2007-05-20 12:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by stacy_branch 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to have a bigger income since the baby is here make both of you a bigger nest egg. He loves you, he just has to get use to the baby and he may be worried that this extra responsibility needs more security.
Sit down and ask him if he isn't happy since the baby has came and that you feel that his feelings for you may have changed. I don't think so, you better be glad he is working for you and not getting out finding some other woman to spend his time with. You know some men when a baby comes they really don't know what to do, it is just a sudden change , he'll settle down after he gets use to the baby being there. I'm sure he loves both of you just give him some time, I think he is a real nice responsible hubby and wants the best of everything for you and the baby. Your not having to get out and work that is probably why he trying to show you that he can be the keeper of his family and he wants you to stay home and be with your precious baby, not a working Mom. Be proud of him , he seems a heck of a nice guy. Give a big hug and kiss and thank him for all he is trying to accomplish for you and your little family
2007-05-20 19:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably really loves you but thinks that working all the time and making more money is what is most important. It's possible that he is only thinking that he wants you to have things that only extra money can buy? These thoughts for him are what causes a person to become a workaholic.....and no amount of money is ever enough. You need to go over all of your finances and agree how much is enough and then show him how many hours he needs to work. It is understandable if you both agree on over time if you are planning to go on vacation together with the exta money he makes to spend some quality time together. Other than that him being with you and the baby is is very important that you build closeness and memories together. I would talk with a counselor if he keeps working and there is enough money for him to not work so much sweetie.
2007-05-20 19:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he loves you, many men like to work a lot. Some men don't know what to do with an infant, but when the child is 2 or 3 --they really enjoy them. Just try to be happy, be patient- i know very many husbands who are like that, don't bug him--When he is home just enjoy the time, at least he works and cares for you both, better than dead-beat dads and stay at home faggoty husbands. I made sure my babies were content & not always crying-- that can drive a person -anyone- insane.
2007-05-20 19:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to say, but this is typical behavior for new fathers... They get very overwhelmed with the crying of the newborns and the lack of freedom they once had... It usually gets better, but you need to have some really good communication right now and let him know how you feel and make a schedule for him to be able to watch the baby at least 2 times a week so that you may have some free time... Even if you don't want it, you deserve it and will be good for you... Good Luck
2007-05-20 18:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Oula 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a baby changes a family for better or worse, it happens. It sounds that since he hasnt disappeared all together, that hes having trouble adjusting to his new responsibilities and committments. This is an added pressure to the already stresses of young marriages. He just doesnt know what to do and is afraid to ask (male macho pride). Give him some time and spaceand soon he should be coming around to his normal self. I really dont see any reason to worry here unless you pressure him into changing. Good luck
2007-05-20 18:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is trying to bring home some extra money so that his family will be comfortable. He is a new father, he probably has alot on his mind and wants to make sure that his child has the best life possible. You should talk to your husband, tell him how you are feeling. He is really the only person that can answer your questions. But, it sounds like he is just adjusting to a new situation and trying to be the best father/ husband he can be! : )
2007-05-20 19:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Love-A-Bull 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be over reacting a bit. Maybe he is working harder because he has a family to provide for now. I think you should talk to him and tell him how much you miss him before the situation gets out of hand. Just talk to him, everything should get better. Do not let lack of communication ruin your marriage.
2007-05-20 18:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tina #1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know he may love you very much and only wants to provide for you and your child. I am sure that to become a new father responsible for a new life has to be as scary to a man as it is to a new mother. so talk to Him tell him how you feel and see if you all can't see a way to be together a few hours in between work times.
2007-05-20 19:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by ptrcholt 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you should just confront him and see what he has to say and if it is nothing bad then ask him to spend time with you and only work when he has to instead of workin over. that would make me feel wierd. well when he comes home does he you know even knowledge that ur there? well i wish you the best of luck and pray everything is ok but u should confront him though really.
alisha
2007-05-21 22:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by alisha_tootie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋