What Should I Do?

Question

My ex came round. Hes beat me up in the past, when he couldnt have his own way. But i thought he had changed, he said to me today that he wanted to make love so i told him to come round and we'l talk. So he came round and we wentt upstairs and cuddled, things have been good lately with us. Then he starts telling me he doesnt want a relationship, and i pointed out the difference to what love is and is not. He started to cry and told me he didnt know whether he wanted me or not, and i told him how i wanted to change things, and he cut me of, the next thing i remember is him going completley crazy because i wanted him to stay and talk things over. He threw me agains the wall , grabbed me and threw me bk and forth into the door punched me so hard in the head and knocked me out breifly, punched my stomach, legs, arms, everything.. becasue i wanted him to stay so i could clear things up. It went on until he got out when i had no more energy or strength to ask him to say.

He called me ugly, said i changed him, said he hated me.. and he said if i told anyone what he did it would make people see how crazy i am. I dont know if im concussed. But im in pain, i dont know what to do.He hates me and he made that clear, he nearly killed me.
Im 17, hes 18.

Answer 1

this is abuse/assault. see a dr. immediately, at the e.r. if necessary. have them take pictures and have him arrested. when we take back our abusers, we're giving them the message that it's ok to treat us that way. hit me once - shame on you. hit me twice - shame on me. the police and hospital will surely have some referrals for you to get support. utilize all of them, especially therapy. the time i took back an abuser years ago, it was due to lackof self esteem and self respect. he was definitely wrong for hurting you but you need to ask yourself an important question...what isit in YOU that attracted him in the first place? until you learn this, you'll repeat the cycle with him and everyone else you date.

Answer 2

Girly girl, I have been in your shoes. Once you get out and get over this loser poor excuse for a human, you will see that you never needed him in the first place and that your mind and heart were only playing tricks on you. You are only begging for his attentions. Find you a new good one and fall madly in love with him. It took me 4 years after leaving to fall in love with another man. I realize now that I never loved the loser guy!!! But at the time I sure thought so. You don't deserve to be hit or called names. In my case the verbal abuse hurt worse than the physical abuse. Now my husband and best friend treats me wonderfully. If I hadn't of been strong enough to have left the loser boyfriend, I would never have met him. I thank God every day for keeping me strong enough through my transition frombeing with the loser guy to getting over the loser guy. Don't get me wrong, it took a lot of painful tears and aloneness to get over him, but it was all worth it. I promise you it will be worth it. This guy does not like you or want you and is only using you for sex and to relieve his demented anger! The hardest part is accepting that. So just tell yourself that every day..." He don't want me and I don't want him and that is just fine with me because I deserve better." I had to tell myself that for a little while. Avoid him and his friends at all costs. No matter what stay away. It is the only way to get over him. When the new man comes along to shower you with affections and honest lovey-dovey names will be so glad that you listened to yourself.
:) Email me if you want sweetie. I have been there before all too much and know what the next step is.

Answer 3

This is domestic violence. Call 911 and report him to the police. This is abuse and will continue if he is not reported immediately.

Go to E/R also if you need to. Take care of yourself.

Answer 4

o god tell everyone and leave him find someone else whos there for you there has to be someone else