my best friend is gay but the problem is i really don't like gay people i mean they kinda of freak me out
don't get me wrong or anything they are really nice people i mean i love my friend to bits
its just what he does behind close doors is what makes me cringe
i have just been brought up to think like this
btw im a girl so if i was near a lesbian i wouldnt be comfortable
what do i do to feel more comfortable near my friend?
and has anyone been in this situation?
2007-05-20 10:14:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know its none of my business what he does but the fact that he tells me about it all the time
so it really bothers me
2007-05-20 10:38:36 · update #1
Well to tell you the truth, your friend can't help that he is gay. See the fact is that when your young, your hormones dont act up. But as you get older, your hormones act up and somehow ends up making them gay or lesbian. At least from what of all the gay/lesbian people i've met had told me.
But anyways, just remember why you like this person. He is human like everyone else. If it really starts to get to you though, just keep being nice to him. It isn't like your whole world has to revolve around him right?
2007-05-20 10:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by FallenFootsteps22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although your best friend is gay , and you say he is your best friend ,your controdicting yourself , either he is or isnt . He may be gay ,but if he treats you ok and no harm done ,treat him likewise . It may seem ackward but you can overcome that if you try hard enough . I'm sure we all have some sorts of something we dont like what are friends (best ) do . But yes you may have been raised the way you say , What he does behind close doors is his business , he's not hurting you ,and as you say he is your best friend . WE.are not to judge !!!!!!!!!
2007-05-20 10:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Gay guy all i can say is Talk to your best friend and tell them that the sexual part of their life style is making you feel uncomfortable. then this person that you care deeply and love them and you hope you will one day you can handle that part of their life. As a Gay man i rarely talk openly about what i do in bed to others, ( remember what you do in your bed may make your friend feel the same way you do about theirs so do the same favor) Sad, sounds like walls are going up
2007-05-21 16:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by sibilance41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that because you're having problems with his sexuality that you can be friends with restrictions, that means you don't want details. I have many gay friends whose sex lives aren't talked about. You need to stop judging him and love him unconditionally, your belief system should state that that is more important than your personal comfort factor. So your uncomfortable, deal with it. Maybe the more you deal with it the more likely you will be to get over it.
2007-05-22 04:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was your best friend, you'd accept him and you'd feel comfortable at the same time. But, since you can't trust him or his sexuality, then you're just terrible. You should probably not be friends with him anymore. You're not good enough to be his friend.
2007-05-20 10:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by lvliss.lvlanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really silly to feel this way, just because your a girl and a lesbian is around you, that doesnt gurantee that she'll want you, heck she may think your horrible looking. Love your friend no matter what, he's not hurting anyone. pretending to be someone he's not would be acting himself, do you want that?
2007-05-20 10:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by antz1230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business what he does "behind closed doors" so don't worry about it! Keep loving him!
2007-05-20 10:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he does behind closed doors is none of your business. And if he continues to talk about it, ask him to stop talking about it.
2007-05-23 08:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I expect you have other friends too. Start developing those friendships too so that you have alternatives. Go to concerts or museums with the gay friend, and clubs and such with the straights ones.
2007-05-20 10:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah my friend was bi and we were friends for a while but not anymore and it has nothing to do with her being bi. just dont think about what your friend does on his or her own time privatly its like someone was judging u because your strait. its non of your bissines so just forget about it.!!! stay friends you care about ur friend so u have to accept them the way they are they dont talk about someone their own sex and say the're so hot so just forget about it
2007-05-20 10:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋