My daughter is pregnent with her boyfriend child. She is 18 and on # 3 baby in as many years. A month ago her friend knocked me down. He was thrown out of my house immediatly. She ofcourse stood up for him,he is 19. A few weeks ago he threatened me again in front of my husband and the fight was on. Police came and he has a no trespass order on him now. I am disabled and unable to defend myself well. I told her he will do it to her if he will do it to me. She says no what do you say
2007-05-20 09:36:10 · 14 answers · asked by lynapow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she doesn't live here anymore and I am not a bad parent she is following in her biological Mothers footsteps. I am truly ashamed of her choices.
2007-05-20 10:54:52 · update #1
i know for a fact he will do it again and it will be worst for your daughter. i had a older sister in the same situation and we talked to her until our faces was blue. but in the long run we had to step back and be there for her when she needed us and wait until she saw him for what he really was. it seems like this guy may have witnessed it growing up and now he is imatating now. tell your daughter that her kids will grow seeing this and the pattern will continue unless she realize that her kids come first and she has to be strong an leave him alone otherwise they won't have a mother. if he pushed you and you are a elder he has no repect for woman let alone respect for older people. tell your daughter it will be hard to leave him especially when you are pregnant but its either her / kids life or death. he may not beat her but it's coming. there are plenty of good men who will treat her and her kids better and it will make her life easier. tell her to close her eyes and picture her kids at her age and asks herself what would she do if it was her kids in the same position and she is the concerned parent. good luck mom.
2007-05-20 09:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by kelly m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
He will abuse her verbally and physically. She will make excuses for him.
There is really nothing you can say. She will have to live with her choices. I hope she wises up before the children are taken away. Domestic violence in the presence of children is a crime that can result in the children being taken out of the home. (failure to protect).
You are doing the right thing by setting the limits for your home. I would let the police know everytime he violates this order and be sure to let them know you are afraid for your safety. Keep a record of any threats also. It sounds like it will be a long time till your life is rid of this "friend".
By the way, when are you going to give your daughter the push out so she can grow up and care for her children like an adult? Haven't you done enough?
2007-05-20 17:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Threeicys 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will. He has proven that he is a brutal, violent person, and even worse, he is like that toward a disabled woman who cannot defend herself. If he could do something that unconscionable, there is no one he would draw the line at hurting.
And I agree with Lonette above me. Your daughter should have been protecting you, not him. I don't care who they are, if someone knocked my mother down, he'd never get the chance to come back and threaten her, and I would be the one on the way to jail.
2007-05-20 16:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your daughter's boyfriend is a sorry @$$ loser! If he would hit his girlfriend's mother, he would hit the girlfriend, too. What I worry about most is the baby. I also have to wonder why your daughter is allowing herself to be used by this worthless man. Three kids in three years?
2007-05-20 16:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be a piece of crap cowars that pick on people weaker than him so i am sure that he will do it to her. She needs a good *** kicking to i would never ever allow my bf to treat my mother that way preganant or not i would have kicked his butt on my own. She needs to have more respect for you. When it happens to her yuo can only be there for her no i told you so's or anything just hope that he doesnt kill her.
2007-05-20 16:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by superthunda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is the worst form of coward. the type that thinks "they are weaker than me, so that means i can do what I want." i have known many like that. and yes, they tend to be abbusive towards their intimate partners as well as those around them, if they feel they can get away with it.
just know this. if you have no witnesses and there is no body, there can not be a conviction!! but you didn't hear that from me. ;)
2007-05-20 16:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by wrldzgr8stdad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes is will. if he isnt already. she needs to get out and get all her abuse documented so she can use it against him in the future for custody issues, etc. if she dont document it then he will turn it around and say she is the abuser.
2007-05-20 16:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone threatening a disabled person is garbage kick him to the curb now.
2007-05-20 17:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by lostchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not will. IS. she thinks she deserves it, or he loves her, or whatever, she feels she has to stand up for him. he is already abusing her, and will continue to abuse her, and probably the child too
2007-05-20 17:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-05-20 16:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Crashovdr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋