Are you tired of the "Mixed Children" debate?

Question

Call me strange but I can't understand the obsession with mixed children. They are just children like all other children.
I don't know who got the idea going that they are better looking than 'non-mixed' children. Personally I know mixed people ( children and adults) who are ugly as hell!

Don't people realize there are far more important things to consider when having children than whether the child will be mixed or not?
Come one people... Don't you realize you should be far more concerned with whether or not you may be passing on a STD or a GD (genetic disease) to the child than what the child's ethnicity would be?
How many people here would actually get completely screened for an STD before having a child?

How many of you would require the same of your partner?
How about having genetic screening done? Would you? Would you demand it of your partner?

Diseases are life-long battles yet they seem to be at the back of peoples mind when they talk about children.

Prove me wrong!

I have asked the same question a couple times b/c I would like as many questions as possible.
No I don't have a problem with race. What I do have a problem with is the apparent division among races and necessity to define ones self by them.

No for all those out there who think I'm necessarily against mixed children, I'm not. I just don't see why it's such a big deal...I just figure a child is a child whether he/she is part Chinese, Caucasian, *****, Hispanic, Native American or whatever..

Statecal...
I'm guessing you didn't read the question or you didn't understand what I was trying to get at.
So I am going to say it a little more clearly.
ALL I AM TRYING TO POINT OUT IS THAT THERE ARE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN HAVING CHILDREN THAT WHETHER OR NOT THEY ARE MIXED!
Got that now?

BTW my granpa is my favourite person in the world and he is more mixed than a fruit cake. So if I had issues with mixed children I'd by extention have an issue with myself.

which I don't.

I live in the US. I guess it's some thing that pops up in metropolitan areas or on college campuses.
I've just run into it a great deal in the past few weeks.. and thought there has to be something better to talk about if you're going to talk about children.
The disease issue was one of the first things that came to mind... well sort of. There are the issues of economics, desire and love to be considered as well.
Desire is simply wanting to have a child and love well.. that's self explanatory. As for economics I think anyone considering having a child should realize there is going to be an economic responsibility and should be prepared to make the necessary sacrifices in that department.
But that's just me.

Answer 1

As a person of mixed ethnicities (I am half korean and half english) I agree with you on the obsession with mixed children. I like compliments, but when people tell me that I look exotic and they want to know what I am, I feel very self conscious. Not to mention i think it's like asking what breed your friend's dog is. It's stupid and it shouldn't matter. If people want to tell you they think you're pretty, then fine. Why does race have to be a part of it?

As far as your argument for diseases, you are right, but not all people can be screened for genetic diseases because there are so many and not all people have an accurate family history. (For example, I have no family history from my mother's side because her mother left when she was 12 and she was raised by a housekeeper and a cook.) Responsible people who are concerned about they're children's well being will get tested for genetic diseases that run in their family, but please understand that this is not always possible.

Answer 2

People make all sorts of excuses to justify their choices. In addition to your examples, I would include bringing children into poverty as well as disease as they often go hand and hand.

People rely on all sorts of "emotional" arguments that they cannot (read: will not) control their behaviour.

Many genetic diseases are avoidable simply by making good choices and getting genetic testing.

However, low income folks seem to claim some right to produce children regardless of the impact on those children or the community.

Mixed? Who cares? That is the least of a society's problems. When you can't afford food, clothing, housing, health care or medication for your children, you can also ask why you made the choice to have children.

Answer 3

I have two bi-racial children, I didn't conceive them just because I thought they would be beautiful. I was In love with their father we were High School sweethearts. Before we decided to go the extra step and have unprotected sex we both went and were tested for STD's even though I was a virgin. Before we tried having children there were many factors that we discussed like our family medical histories so and and so forth. So not everyone with a bi-racial or "mixed" child just does this to have a pretty baby. But just so you know yes mine are very beautiful, they have the best of both worlds and they are taught about their different cultures. Our families are quite different in the way that we do things but we get along and I want my children to know where their backgrounds come from.

Answer 4

I am 62 and I have never heard of this debate, so I can hardly say that I am sick of it. Where in hell do you live?
What I can offer is this. Whatever you focus on you will attract.
Whatever you passionately are against, you will attract.
My little brother`s first girlfriend was a Native Canadian. My mother, a French-Canadian, had a fit. She had been taught by her parents and whoever that this was a serious mistake which would surely land him in Hell. From that day on, he always chose Native girls and he never married until he was about 50. This is an example of where pushing against got my mother. She did eventually smarten up and is an angel.
As far as diseases, we have within our bodies every disease known to man in potential form. It is now being discovered that there are only about ten main diseases and their thousands of mutations. You, my friend, are walking around with the seeds of bubonic plague, leprosy, yellow fever, you name it. Actually the common cold is now thought to be a strain of bubonic plague. So I don`t know where you are coming from with this testing busine$$.

Answer 5

I have never heard this debate before. I don't see children of mixed ethnicity's any different. My son is half hispanic, and by looking at him, he could pass as a full blooded one. But this has made no difference in his life. I have never heard a comment from anyone about his ethnicity. He is aware that his skin color and his eye color is different than his brother's and sister's, but he has never felt strange or singled out. Ever since he was old enough to understand, I have always talked openly about his skin color, telling him that it is awesome that he is the only one in our family with hair and eyes that color, and he knows he is special. It has made absolutely no difference to him at all, and to others for that matter. People view him for the sweet little boy that he is, not his ethnicity. I don't really see what the concern with STD's has to do with that topic. Of course everyone should be aware of STD's, and should protect themselves if they choose to be sexually active.

Answer 6

well sorry, but im not going take youre word ,because all my families are mixs cultures races .so i dont have no problem with it maybe some thing wrong with you not anybody else . well i think someday you will end up not getting married to somebody who wouldnt be alike you kind of race at all. you willl be single forever til men out there going read what you wrote down about mixs children how theyre parents had made them with different colors . iam half mix color and iam proud what i am and was born n with different races.plus i dont think getting diseases cause having people having mix children . there is other word for that question ? but it isnt anything about mixing chidren how they were born and who their parents are . std that not how you end up getting it from if you were married to other culture , color ,race, or had sex with . you can get it if you didnt even had safe sex or hadnt taken any blood tests to see if you caught it from somebody else . yes, people out there didnt even becareful who they slepted with . that sound crazy too but not many men will choose not have wear condoms every once while . that not youre buinesse it theirs . i bet youre such a young child to ask such questions about that . maybe you should talk to youre parents what they think about giving birth to mix children .

Answer 7

If there is an issue here, it's here to stay because there will be more and more mixed race children in the world. So nobody should get tired of debating and resolving any significant issues outstanding.

Answer 8

Yes, I am one of the ones tired of the subject ... and I have a SLEW of mixed nieces and nephews. What I can't stand is when a woman is pregnant, be it she is white or black, and the sperm donor is of a different ethnicity, the first thing you will hear someone say is ''oh, that's going to be a beautiful baby'', as if a non-interracial child can't be beautiful either. Wish for a happy healthy baby, not if they will be beautiful or not all because they are mixed.

Answer 9

Race is a part of our identity. When it is adulterated, we lose a portion of our identity. Which is why, some people get upset. The family name means something to them and they should all look the same way. When color or features change, many people feel they no longer share the same family.

Answer 10

I think the problem lies with you..you seem to be fixated on race I have noticed alot of questions that you ask are based on race....maybe you should do some soul searching to find out if you are comfortable or not with person that you are