So about 2 months ago i went out with this guy who i totally fell for named ian who cheated on me with two drunk highschool girls.[we're in eighth grade]
ive had 2 bfs since then but never seem to really want anything except him back.
this is really hard because he wants me back too and knows he made a huge mistake. Hes said sorry uncountable times and i know how hard his life is. His mom is a slut who thinks shes all that and kicks him out of the house when she goes on dates. and ive been talking to him a lot sortof thinking of planning revenge but not really considering it, and then he starts telling me that his dad is abusing him. and he doesnt want anyone to know. like beating him up kicking and punching and striking with a bat.
I don't know what to do.
He won't talk to a councelor. I want to meet with him to make sure that he's telling the truth about this before i talk to MY school councelor, but I don't know if i can bring myself to do that. What should i do??
2007-05-20 08:10:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your councellor or your parents, if he's telling the truth, he's in danger. If he's not, then he has major psychological problems. Help him by telling. Good luck.
2007-05-20 08:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, how horrible that you are being put into this situation! You're a very brave young lady.
Right now, this boy needs a friend, not a girlfriend. Forget the "revenge" because he cheated on you. He's reaching out to you for help. I would say meet with him and see if his story rings true. Then, go to your counselor and ask them for help. This is way more than you should try to handle alone. Good luck!
2007-05-20 08:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how do you know he cheated on you with two drunk high school girls? as far as i know no highschooler would ever with a little eighth grader. trust me. is it possible he made it up to cover for something. could it be that his father sexually abused him. children who are abused don't really tell any body. how do you know that he got hit. does he have any bruises? why won't he talk to a conselor and why won't you? Are you stupid? first if you suspect abuse, by actually witnessing or seeing bruises, you can call an abuse hotline and leave your name anonymously. if you look in the front of you phone book, they have them.
2007-05-20 08:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by orangedude94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the school counselor but don't tell her who your talking about
then ask her if they could have an assembly on child abuse and maybe he will want to tell someone himself if that doesn't work tell your counselor he's being abused he might not like you when you tell but in the end it will turn out ok
2007-05-20 08:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by fun_timealexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly don't get back together with him for romantic purposes. He needs a lot of help and he'll run to relationships to try filling his voids, his feeling that he isn't loved.
Do try to find out if he's telling the truth and get some adult help for him.
2007-05-20 08:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in such a tough spot; I'm sorry that you're in this position. But when I look back now on times when I've been in similar situations, I wish I would've went to school counselors instead of hiding the situations I've been in when in jr high and high school. Please talk to the counselor at your school? And don't put yourself in the dangerous situation of being his girlfriend!! Be his friend, but don't try to fix this yourself. You're a strong person, and we're all rooting for you!! Please be safe!!!
2007-05-20 08:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gina E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's best to talk to your school counselor. Get him help. You will be a lifesaver & a hero if you do. & also call this crisis hotline anonymously. 1(800) 448-3000.
2007-05-20 08:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes giving you the sob story to gain your sympathy and that way get you to take him back. Whatever his home problems, its his problems. Dont jump in to participate and sort out. That is for a professional to do. His reluctance to see a counselor makes me doubt his word. Its his decision what he wants to do about it - if its really true about his dad. I doubt it.
2007-05-20 08:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by inspectclouseau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes just telling u this so that u feel sorry for him and can get you back. cheat on u once he cheat on u forever, dont be a fool.
even if its real that he gettin abused, help him but dont go bak to him.
2007-05-20 08:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by GUY23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices. EITHER report it to an adult that you trust completely (your mom?) or walk away.
Advise him of your choice. Then follow thru.
2007-05-20 08:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋