Do Men Deal With Their Own Homosexuality By Being Homophobic?

Answer 1

I have the most interesting experience with this from someone I know.
First of all, people who are openly homosexual and are living the lifestyle are perfectly comfortable with themselves do not act homophobic. That would be ridiculous.
However, people who are INSECURE about certain things in their sexual life and tastes perhaps, unsure of themselves and are frightened by their own feelings due to religious backgrounds, upbringings, the opinion of others/society, do tend to act violently to homosexual notions and hence, could be considered homophobic.
I know someone who is like this and I constantly think he is gay or someone leaning in that direction. There is nothing wrong with that and I wish he'd accept it. I think every human being has a built in "degree" to which they are attracted to the opposite as well as the same sex. It is a matter of the level of the outweighing of that degree that determines the actual sexual tendencies and lifestyle.

Answer 2

Hi Afro

This may not be what you were hoping to hear, but the simple answer is: "No"

1. Firstly because the term "homphobia" is a "non-word" made up as part of a propaganda campaign.
If "homophobic" was a real word it would mean "fear of the same". So "homophobic" men would have a fear/phobia of ALL men; and "homophobic" women would have a fear/phobia of ALL women.
We could even have "homophobic" homosexuals who had a fear/phobia of other homosexuals!

2. No one IS a homosexual. This is a form of sexual PREFERENCE which may or may not express itself in homosexual behaviour.
Despite all the efforts to find a genetic basis for homosexual behaviour/preferences, the strongest link is that certain physiological features MIGHT INCLINE someone towards heterosexual relationships rather than heterosexual relationships.

As far as I am aware, NONE of the features has been found in ALL examinations of people with a preference for homosexual behaviour.

3. The largest survey of sexual preferences, behaviour ever carried out was in the UK in the early 1990s and involved tens of thousands of respondents. One of the big surprises was that the percentage of homosexuals in the population was far lower than previous estimates (which had been around 5% of men and *slightly* lower for women.

The new figures were less than half of that - around 2,5% or less for both sexes.

4. Studies also show that homosexuality is far less likely to be a fixed state than was previously assumed. In fact - despite propaganda on the subject (put about by mainly by "militant" male homosexuals) - a steady stream of people move from a homosexual orientation to a heterosexual orientation each year, and stick to their new orientation without any kind of inducement or pressure. A growing number of cases are on record of people still adhering to their heterosexual orientation 20 years or more after they switched.

In short, the claim that goes, if I've heard it correctly, "Modst men are really homosexuals, but their haven't the courage to admit it," is pure baloney. And men with a heterosexual orientation are VERY unlikely to have any latent tendencies towards homosexual behaviour.
So, in the terms of your question, they have nothing that they need to "deal with."

One last point.
Many people with a preference for a homosexual orientation complain about their treatment by people in various religious groups.

So what about a strictly NON-religious view point?

According to ultra-Darwinists such as zoologist Professor Richard Dawkins, the primary purpose of human beings is to act as kind of troop carriers for their genes, and to replicate those genes into the next generation. That is, through heterosexual sexual encounters.

Insofar as a person with a preference for homosexual relationships will tend to at least minimise, and probably entirely avoid, heterosexual sexual relationships, homosexual behaviour and relationships are, by definition, "against nature".

Answer 3

The term "homophobia" is a misnomer. The proper term should be "homo+(whatever the Greek word is for disgust)". I cannot speak for all men, but my being repulsed by homosexuality has nothing to do with my heterosexuality. The mere idea of two men having abnormal sex makes me sick. Is that wrong in the upside down thinking of liberals?

Answer 4

I have a couple of homosexual friends; what I have seen is that usually when in groups of people they tend to make more homophobic jokes and comments than average, I think to try to avoid suspicion...

Answer 5

To start with yes, I think they may feel like there is something "wrong' with them. Maybe they feel as if they are going to be rejected or they want people to think that they are not "less of a man". Whatever the reason, there is no reason to be so neglective of yourself. It shouldn't matter what others feel. Do what makes you happy.

Answer 6

You may have hit on something here. I watch str8 guys at ball games getting drunk and by the 5th or 6th inning they are hands all over each other, I think they have some need inside that they keep hidden to be physically involved with other males. Seriously, as soon as they are a little drunk and the inhibitions are down, they can't wait to touch each other.

Answer 7

It may not be that they are homosexual. They may just have a pathological fear of being suspected of being homosexual and thus, to their thinking not a "real" man.

Answer 8

Sometimes

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

Sometimes.